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ADHD ASD Feel let down by the system

Susan

Hi, I have had a really horrible day , my son who has ADHD & ASD has now been excluded from school for tomorrow and I will need to take him in on Friday morning for a meeting .

when I picked him up from school I asked ‘How was your day?

he relied ‘ Mm it was ok but there was a small incident , so I asked what was the incident ? He replied with ‘Oh the head of year said he will call you but it’s fine it all sorted out . 
Ten minutes after I arrived home the school calls and informed me that my son was in isolation most of the day as he had taken a knife from the CDT lesson and had it in his bag in the playground. After a discussion with him this evening he told me that he didn’t know he picked up the knife as when I’m the lesson he wasn’t following instructions or behaving appropriately so they asked him to leave the lesson , he says he picked up his work and the craft knife was within his work and he didn’t know it was there ! My question to him was when he realised he had the knife why he didn’t take it to a teacher or the school reception, he says he doesn’t know . The donor believe him as his lies are so bad I don’t believe even when he could be telling the truth . So now he is excluded for safety reasons which I totally understand. I’ve had a long and lengthy conversation with him regarding this tonight and I don’t know what else to do ? I am really struggling with his behaviour and lies . It has affected my life so much and seems to be heating worse . On our last CAMHS review I was told to contact the AFSO which I did and she gave me some good advice but also then mentioned I should get back in touch with CAMHs which I have tried but I have heard nothing yet ... why is it so hard to get any help ?

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  • The questions you should be asking the school is that if they believe he is a risk to the other children  why wasn't another member of staff supervising him using a craft knife. The is a complete lack of responsibility from the teacher and the school if the teacher didn't account for the missing knife at the end of the lesson.

    A child doesn't lie without a reason.

    If the teachers are not accommodating his needs and repetitively keep disciplining him without actively finding solution or finding the cause of his behaviour than sorry it not your son fault. it's the school complete and lack of approach in curbing his behaviour. 

    You need to request a need assessment from your local authority to get the support in school or support moving him to another school because it sound like this school is not suitable or not equipped to teach children with Specific needs.

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  • The questions you should be asking the school is that if they believe he is a risk to the other children  why wasn't another member of staff supervising him using a craft knife. The is a complete lack of responsibility from the teacher and the school if the teacher didn't account for the missing knife at the end of the lesson.

    A child doesn't lie without a reason.

    If the teachers are not accommodating his needs and repetitively keep disciplining him without actively finding solution or finding the cause of his behaviour than sorry it not your son fault. it's the school complete and lack of approach in curbing his behaviour. 

    You need to request a need assessment from your local authority to get the support in school or support moving him to another school because it sound like this school is not suitable or not equipped to teach children with Specific needs.

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