I'll have to make this reasonably concise! As there's so much detail since Dec 2019 upon moving into my Bungalow .
I live alone and my neighbour to my right(as i look out of my property) theyre a couple(Lesbians....merely stating this fact!) ....All seemed reasonably ok, upon moving in...but i could easily tell i was obviously being assessed!....Odd comments like "oh you have a new car(its a mobility one infact)" "oh we might get one like that"!
And general sizing me up....via odd enquiry.
Before i moved in....my back garden thats shared with theirs,had a long hedge as a divider(fence) and when the old lady, who lived here before me died...They cut it all down and put up(if you can even call it a fence) a 3ft chicken messes thing!....It was awful!.....Everytime i came out, their 4 dogs always barked at me...and it was generally awkward!...
One of this couple is exceptionally rude and the other is more sneaky....its good cop bad cop!...very bizarre!
So time moves on and in March 2020 i state im going to put a fence up.....All good!....the quieter lady said!" no worries"
I finally get round to saving the money, and erect said fence around 1 month ago....They had gone away to their caravan and i managed to do it in one weekend..
Now Tina, came back and i could see the look on her face!.....She really shouldnt play poker!....Yet she said " oh right....thats ok" hmmmmm!...
Its a 6ft fence....pretty standard procedure, so wondered what on earth has bothered her(theyve never admitted it, but i know in part its to do with their view being obscured , so thehy cant look at my other neighbours and what theyre doing..
Now heres the crucial part.....
2 days later...i come back from my ex partners on a Monday afternoon and the 2 ladies are outside....Tina doing the garden..and Babs watching,what turned out to be Tinas son, trying to fix their Mini Cooper boot latch...
I say hi to Babs, as shes always been the easier to talk to.
And within 3 mins....Tina comes upto me and literally without exaggeration....Raves and yells at me(people and neighbours were walking past) "when are you going to remove those Brambles...WHEN"?.."Ive spent 2 hrs clearing my side"...ect ect!
It actually turned out ,after the council arrived 1 week later...that the Brambles are her side....I wont get into the technicalities, but she messed up and showed her hand(ie....theres cleaely something ,not just the fence, thats bothered them about me) ....And being Autistic(diagnosed at 50....2 years back!....living alone...and feeling vulnerable anyway! This has practically given me major melt downs and so much anger ive done my best not to explode!..
Its the sheer injustice of the way she spoke to me....Even Babs her partner and son, told her(i didnt hear this myself but was told by Babs) to come round my house and opoligise!
I accepted and wanted to move on..then she said to me alone" you'll get USE to me" and had a grin...genuinely a pig ignorant person!...I dont have to get use to anything and certainly not being spoken to like that..
So! .....all of this is all ive been thinking about for the last month....pretty much every day!..self doubting myself...feeling its my fault and im giving off bad vibes.....my Autism ect...!
Severe low self esteem!.
These details dont really come close to the finer minutia of whats occured, but ive given a brief-ish! outline. Needless to say(though i'll say it)....the atmosphere is awful.
And other people down the road have spoken to them and given me the cold shoulder...
I really want to be left alone!
How, do i stop beating myself up and always feeling its my fault when things like this happen....?....i do sense i somehow bug people.....