Hi IV recently been in a relationship with my partner for over 7 months now he's the most caring , loving person. Always laughing together. He did mention how he likes things and routine in certain ways and likes to plan. He has OCD ( slight ) and Autism undiagnosed ( we done a test online due to him joking about possibly having it ) the past few months have been very very hard. He's constantly being negative, repeating old arguements and he forever thinks I am lying about the answers I give. He thinks up senarios in his mind to which he believes are one hundred percent true. He never listens to what I have to say, never believes and can take days to calm down or answer my calls. Is this normal? To bring up old arguements maybe a few days / weeks later ? It just pops into his head and it's like being back at the argument again. He's no trust in me, in anyone. But when we are good we are amazing. Iv noticed a pattern of when we have to leave each other as we are long distance ( and he works off shore ) we both find it extremely difficult to be away but this is when the problems start. It's really really hurtful and some of the things he says are awful. And he can quiet happily shut me off from his life, I have to do the chasing. I work in a special needs school so I noticed the traits but having a relationship with someone is completely different to supporting children with education. You can constantly see in his eyes he's thinking 24/7 and he admits that he never switches off. Any advice please