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Doing the right thing

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At this moment in time in lock down there are those that are not following the government guide lines. 

My neighbours have their family visit & at times have they have had eight visitors in one day & social distancing hasn’t been exactly followed. Their court yard garden has three other small to medium gardens backing on to theirs including mine without solid fencing in between us.

 I’ve become very stressed, anxious & as I’m shielded too. 

However I have a thing about following rules, honesty, considerate behaviour & such like. I want to say to these neighbours of mine about their irresponsible behaviour, also the science of the corona virus & how it can contaminate others etc.

 Every day I upset myself by constantly thinking about this. I know I’m looping. But i know if I say anything to my neighbours as I have done in the past about their barking dogs they do nothing about it. I did say also a few years ago i had Aspergers & the woman laughed at me. 

I’m sad as I feel as though I have no voice & im disrespected. However my husband & myself are doing the right thing & so are many others. 

Sorry all...i’ve Just had a rant & sorry as I sound very self righteous. But the corona virus is a killer & very very real. 

My question how to let go of my obsessive thoughts of righteousness. Because at the end of the day it’s my ego saying this to me. 

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  • You are reacting because of our built-in need for order and following rules - we see this as important - no-one else does.      NTs see these things as suggestions that interfere with their plans so they ignore them.   They are able to do this with zero guilt - unfortunately, we can't.

    Guidelines are not law.      People have very different views as to the point of lockdowns and rules in general.     All you can do is control what you do so try to ignore others not following the rules as you do.    

    I'd suggest finding something fulfilling to do to take your mind off everyone else's business - what you don't know won't bother you - it's the easiest way to survive all this chaos..

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  • You are reacting because of our built-in need for order and following rules - we see this as important - no-one else does.      NTs see these things as suggestions that interfere with their plans so they ignore them.   They are able to do this with zero guilt - unfortunately, we can't.

    Guidelines are not law.      People have very different views as to the point of lockdowns and rules in general.     All you can do is control what you do so try to ignore others not following the rules as you do.    

    I'd suggest finding something fulfilling to do to take your mind off everyone else's business - what you don't know won't bother you - it's the easiest way to survive all this chaos..

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