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Oscie

Hi there,

I have recently been in a work What's App group due to the lockdown. It is a large group and some of the members are using covert bullying tactics. This is  making me anxious. I don't know how to quit without causing offence. Any ideas? Thanks

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  • Hi, I've been under a lot of pressure to use videoconferencing, and I hate putting myself on camera, I have to stim all the time, and everyone can see me stimming like mad on camera. So I've done the same thing others have suggested and just faded out and not used the camera. I have toed the line, just about and made the occasional comment, audio only. I think if my boss challenges me, I'll just tell him it's not my cup of tea and I'll work better if I don't have a camera in my face. It's hard to ignore the truth. 

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  • Hi, I've been under a lot of pressure to use videoconferencing, and I hate putting myself on camera, I have to stim all the time, and everyone can see me stimming like mad on camera. So I've done the same thing others have suggested and just faded out and not used the camera. I have toed the line, just about and made the occasional comment, audio only. I think if my boss challenges me, I'll just tell him it's not my cup of tea and I'll work better if I don't have a camera in my face. It's hard to ignore the truth. 

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  • in reply to Plectrum

    Does your boss know that you struggle with this form of communication? He or she should be supportive, top down management is so yesterday.

  • in reply to Plectrum

    I have the same problem.... I also find that because the audio and the image are slightly out of sync it really frustrates me and it is all I can concentrate on. I also find the auditory distortion through speakers difficult. Also having someone else's face that close to mine even though it is virtual is tricky especially when the faces keep changing so quickly. So I have to draw while I listen to get me through the meeting. I have actually explained this to my boss and I am fortunate they really get it and didn't put pressure on me to use the video function. Without the video at first and gradually starting with just a 1:1. Video I can now cope with the video too and I just minimise the screen. But it took practice and I still draw most of the time I am in a meeting.