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Hate the sound of people eating when I am not eating.

Hope

I hate the sound of people eating crunchy  and/or smelly food when I am not eating with them, and the person concerned is either with me or are eating in a non food related place (including supermarkets). If I am eating with them, I am fine. I do not know why this is the case, but I feel angry and as though I want nothing to do with them. I am also very pedantic and think that food should be eaten at set times, my set times. And while knowing that it is unrealistic for other people to abide by my rules, I get angry when people do things like munch on biscuits in a public walkway, shop, or when there mind is engaged elsewhere. Forgive my snobbery, but I think it is uncouth and animal like

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  • It was not the fact that Hope finds eating in public 'disgusting' that I was commenting on, it was the fact she equates 'not eating in public' with 'polite behaviour' and 'eating in public' with 'impolite, uncouth, and animal like'. These, notions of 'polite' and 'impolite', are the culturally imposed stereotypes to which I was refering.

    What makes something 'polite' other than society saying it is so? There is nothing inherently 'wrong' or 'bad' about eating in public, it is only our parents, guardians, and teachers telling us that that makes it so.

    As for what I mean by 'harm' and 'causing harm' - I find bright, direct, light painful, but the sun, or a light bulb, is not 'causing me harm' in any meaningfull sense of the verb 'to cause' - for something 'to cause' something it must be directly responsible for the outcome, but the sun, or a bulb, is not directly responsible for the pain I experience. The pain is a side effect of the combined conditions of the sun, or bulb, producing light, and my having Asperger's. But, if I punch someone in the face, then I am directly responsible for the harm and so can be said to have caused it.

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  • It was not the fact that Hope finds eating in public 'disgusting' that I was commenting on, it was the fact she equates 'not eating in public' with 'polite behaviour' and 'eating in public' with 'impolite, uncouth, and animal like'. These, notions of 'polite' and 'impolite', are the culturally imposed stereotypes to which I was refering.

    What makes something 'polite' other than society saying it is so? There is nothing inherently 'wrong' or 'bad' about eating in public, it is only our parents, guardians, and teachers telling us that that makes it so.

    As for what I mean by 'harm' and 'causing harm' - I find bright, direct, light painful, but the sun, or a light bulb, is not 'causing me harm' in any meaningfull sense of the verb 'to cause' - for something 'to cause' something it must be directly responsible for the outcome, but the sun, or a bulb, is not directly responsible for the pain I experience. The pain is a side effect of the combined conditions of the sun, or bulb, producing light, and my having Asperger's. But, if I punch someone in the face, then I am directly responsible for the harm and so can be said to have caused it.

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