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why do people come and go?

qwerty

I sometimes use the "search" function to look up some questions I have to see if someone in the past has already ask similar questions. And when I look at past posts, like posts that were 6 years old, the people who were actively replying to posts back then (e.g., having many posts/replies and top contributor), pretty much all of them are not actively posting now. Actually, it doesn't even have to be that long, a lot of people who were active 3 years ago are not active now. So I'm curious, what causes people to leave? Is it because they got what they needed (e.g., originally needing advice on how to get a diagnosis and then they got one)? Or is it because they get bored of having to answer the same questions over and over for so long? Or is it because they had some bad experience here? Or is it because they later got a negative diagnosis and felt they don't belong? Or is it because they got too busy in life (e.g., work, family, friends, and other demands)? Or is it because they realised that they like the forum too much that they are spending too much time on it and should take a break? Or is it because they found a different ASD group (e.g., more local, more focused)? Or because they moved to a different country?

Do you think you will still be on this forum 5 years later?

Parents

  • I hope I will still be on the forum in 5 years, but I don't post or reply as often as I used to. I am waiting for my official assessment, so I can't be 100% sure I have ASD yet and therefore feel it might be inappropriate to reply to some of them. (Ironically, when I first came here looking for help and was only self diagnosed I was less worried about that.) I am also worried that if I get too attached to it and the people on here and then find I'm not autistic and have to leave, it will be a harder blow. So I have taken a step back, metaphorically speaking. (I know that might not sound very logical to others.) I mostly just read what others have written and vote up the things I like.

    My confidence was also shaken not long ago by a "war of words" which happened between some members of the forum, but I'm over that now. It did put me off for a time, though.

  • in reply to Misheard Lyrics

    Thanks for your reply. I can totally understand what you are saying. I felt exactly the same way while I was waiting for an official assessment - when I was without a official diagnosis was hard for me to be 100% sure (and I actually think that this feeling is an ASD-related thing, because we care so much about rules, and the rules of the medical world is that the diagnosis must be made by a qualified professional and it has to be written on paper to count.... so even if we do meet *all* the criteria, not having it official can be very bothersome as it feels incomplete). I wish you all the best with your official assessment!  

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  • in reply to Misheard Lyrics

    Thanks for your reply. I can totally understand what you are saying. I felt exactly the same way while I was waiting for an official assessment - when I was without a official diagnosis was hard for me to be 100% sure (and I actually think that this feeling is an ASD-related thing, because we care so much about rules, and the rules of the medical world is that the diagnosis must be made by a qualified professional and it has to be written on paper to count.... so even if we do meet *all* the criteria, not having it official can be very bothersome as it feels incomplete). I wish you all the best with your official assessment!  

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