My son is 7, he is the most beautiful , kindest little boy I know .. we have been waiting for a diagnosis for such a long time and I really need support, maybe advice would help me not feel so alone..
among many things he has a tendency to let situations wether this be social or just general things frustrate him , so I’m new to the whole autism traits thing but he self harms , he will scratch his face till it bleeds and rock back and forth, I’m not really sure why this happens , google isn’t the most reliable source and wondered if anyone had any advice for me to help him stop or try and find alternatives to help him .. it makes me so upset for him because I can’t imagine how it feels to be him , but after it happens he doesn’t really show any thought for the pain it may cause himself.. he has quite a few scars from where he has done it in the past , he does it with fingernails only .. I mean does anyone have any experience in this .. the help we ask for is just school putting him on his own to calm down, which I don’t think makes it better. Hoping someone here can shed some light .. desperate mum !
Yes, I have experience in doing this.
I had started to scratch and dig nails into my arms or face around the same age. I can only speak for why I had done this, which was in feeling momentary pain to eleviate the internalized suffering* I was experiencing, which then followed by a gradual release to let out the negitive emotions. I would also rock on my chair when I felt I wasn't being heard (parents being rigid in their demands).
* Sometimes it is not just what is happening in the moment, but how it is affecting me, or more often how it is affecting the other person which I always internalize and fixate on, such as facial expressions, tone of voice, body movement. (typically with my parents during a disagreement).
Shame and Guilt: When I would self-harm in private, the primary reason was/is typically related to feelings of shame or guilt about a particular situation.