an NT asking autistics what THEY want from us.....

KaloJaro: Have you ever considered getting a bus pass? If you are on any form of DLA you can apply for one, and it is a very simple form. You can get the form from your local council. The pass is valid for up to three years and can then be renewed. I have a bus pass and it has proved invaluable, particularly because I also have a travel and money phobia, so it allows me to have control over my life and when I travel. You can also get a disability card for rail travel, which offers you a sizable discount.

Regarding the thread question: People without autism should adjust their expectations of what they consider socially inappropriate behaviour. No-one should be expected to make eye-contact, for example. 'Neurotypicals' should try and include people who find social situations difficult, by taking the initiative and talking to the person, who just because they themselves are not actively going up to people, does not always mean they are happy on their own!. Of course the opposite can be the case too, and if a person is feeling anxious and wants to be on their own, this should be perfectly acceptable, no questions asked.

People with AS, like myself, may take longer to learn a task and make more mistakes at first, but we will get there eventually, our learning can just be a bit different. It often helps if things are written down to avoid information overload. And don't patronize us or treat us like children, just understand that we might need a bit more support in order to function, but we do value our independence and many of us do not like things being done for us that we can happily do ourselves. But we do often require a helping hand and reassurance. It is very important that we are consulted as to what support we need so that we are in control at all times.

KaloJaro: Have you ever considered getting a bus pass? If you are on any form of DLA you can apply for one, and it is a very simple form. You can get the form from your local council. The pass is valid for up to three years and can then be renewed. I have a bus pass and it has proved invaluable, particularly because I also have a travel and money phobia, so it allows me to have control over my life and when I travel. You can also get a disability card for rail travel, which offers you a sizable discount.

Regarding the thread question: People without autism should adjust their expectations of what they consider socially inappropriate behaviour. No-one should be expected to make eye-contact, for example. 'Neurotypicals' should try and include people who find social situations difficult, by taking the initiative and talking to the person, who just because they themselves are not actively going up to people, does not always mean they are happy on their own!. Of course the opposite can be the case too, and if a person is feeling anxious and wants to be on their own, this should be perfectly acceptable, no questions asked.

People with AS, like myself, may take longer to learn a task and make more mistakes at first, but we will get there eventually, our learning can just be a bit different. It often helps if things are written down to avoid information overload. And don't patronize us or treat us like children, just understand that we might need a bit more support in order to function, but we do value our independence and many of us do not like things being done for us that we can happily do ourselves. But we do often require a helping hand and reassurance. It is very important that we are consulted as to what support we need so that we are in control at all times.