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advice about 11 year old anxiety

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Hi

i am new here and looking for some advice from those that may have experienced..my 11 year old son has aspergers, pretty mild, in fact one diagnosis said that he didnt have, however in past year he has started to experience real anxiety about ANY sort of change...from going out on a trip, going on holiday, pretty much anything that doesnt involve being in the house doing the things he is used to etc... he is in last year of primary and is already in pieces thinking about going to secondary school....(so am i but not telling him that). he wont even go and visit his dad up north as he hates travelling and worries about what he may do or not do and being able to do things etc..

is this somthing that others have experienced with their kids and any advice?

thanks!

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  • hi - anxiety is a difficult one.  My opinion is that little steps are best.  It would be a big deal to go away on holiday and changing school is a big deal for anyone so it'll be on his mind, fuelling his worries.  I know talking about school may make him even more anxious but the day is looming.  It's only my opinion but I find with my son that if he can be prepared in advance he generally responds better.   What's in place for him when he moves up to secondary?  Going out : a much shorter trip for a short time may be a way of moving him forward.  Rather than going away for, say, a weeks holiday to somewhere new, you could see if he would be willing to go out for an hour or so to somewhere he used to enjoy, or even half an hour and build it up from there.

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  • hi - anxiety is a difficult one.  My opinion is that little steps are best.  It would be a big deal to go away on holiday and changing school is a big deal for anyone so it'll be on his mind, fuelling his worries.  I know talking about school may make him even more anxious but the day is looming.  It's only my opinion but I find with my son that if he can be prepared in advance he generally responds better.   What's in place for him when he moves up to secondary?  Going out : a much shorter trip for a short time may be a way of moving him forward.  Rather than going away for, say, a weeks holiday to somewhere new, you could see if he would be willing to go out for an hour or so to somewhere he used to enjoy, or even half an hour and build it up from there.

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