What book are you reading now?

I used to be an avid reader, and writer, but don't do much of either anymore. Although I am currently reading an interesting book about mortuary science for work. But before that, I did used to read books like Harry Potter and Narnia back in 2015.

I also used to be an avid reader but don't really have the time at the moment. What do you work as? 

I struggle for time as well now. Something always seems to be happening. I am a mortician's assistant, a good job for someone like me as it requires very little socialising. I also enjoy it because it means I'm there in the last minutes of a persons life, keeping them company and looking after them.

My work include assisting the mortician during autopsies, photographing, recording details and cleaning. I find it all very interesting and it makes me feel closer to my family doing this work.

I struggle for time as well now. Something always seems to be happening. I am a mortician's assistant, a good job for someone like me as it requires very little socialising. I also enjoy it because it means I'm there in the last minutes of a persons life, keeping them company and looking after them.

My work include assisting the mortician during autopsies, photographing, recording details and cleaning. I find it all very interesting and it makes me feel closer to my family doing this work.

Thank you again :-) I really do enjoy being a mum to my 3 daughters. Yeah it is nice not being pressured to work all the time, I just fit it in when I can.

That's ok, i think that the noise cancelling ear plugs are more subtle than the head phones which might be better for you at work.

It's ok. It was awful at the time but it's a very long time ago now. I guess what I did learn from it though, is that time does heal. It takes time but we do adapt and recover from loss. It is possible to feel happy again.

I'm not usually too bad with lights and sounds, except if I'm feeling anxious, then they really bug me! When it is bad it tends to be lots of background noise that affects me, such as lots of different conversations and stuff.

I'm sure you'll enjoy being a mum in your own time :-)

I am and Thank you again!

Kit x

Your children are very lucky to have you Kitsun, your everything a mum should be, obviously very kind, caring and have a big heart of gold . You obviously love your children very much, I can sense it and it's lovely to see. Your agency work sounds like fun, and not too stressful either which must be very good for you, and for your youngest son. I wish you, and your family, all the very best for a very healthy and happy future! .

It does make it an easier place to work yes, and as I struggle with the heat the cold environment there also helps me a lot. And thank you for the suggestion of noise cancelling ear plugs, I've never heard of them before but will speak to the head mortician tomorrow, hopefully she'll be ok with that! If she is then I'll buy some asap. Thank you so much for the suggestion .

I am really, really sorry that you lost your dad at such a young age . That must have been a dreadful time and very sad and overwhelming experience for you, and for your family! *hugs* I hope you are doing a lot better now, you sound like a lovely person with a wonderful family.

I'm sorry you're being bugged by lights and sounds... that happens to me a lot as well, especially if I use the hoover or put music on too loud. Hopefully it will pass for you soon .

Awh thank you, I hope I do as well, and thank you for the advice. I won't rush into it, I want it to be sort of natural and to happen at a steady pace I'm comfortable with .

Wow 21... You must be one experienced and proud mum now! .

Thank you for your reply, you've really made me smile today!

Astridlora. X

Thank you :-) I am very busy with the children, especially my youngest who has global developmental delay. Due to that I only do agency work and don't work too much just as and when. 

That's good that the head mortician is very supportive and understanding with you, it must make it an easier place to work?

I'm sure that many families feel reassured that their loved ones are being looked after right to the end.

Although I've never experienced anything as catastrophic as you have with losing your whole family. My dad died of cancer when I was 15 and the whole time surrounding that was very stressful and unsettling for me. It also took me a good few years for me to get over it. I'm having a day today where light and sounds are bugging me, it's a pain when that happens! Can you wear noise cancelling ear plugs at work? They might help with the noise. I'm not sure what to suggest for the smells! I hope you achieve your wish to become a mum, don't rush it though, my eldest is 21, I've certainly found it a lot easier being a mum the second time around with a lot more life experience under my belt.

Kit x

Aww that's lovely . You sound like a parent who deeply cares for their children. I can imagine you're very busy with your children! Also sounds like your busy with work too. Your children are lucky to have you in their lives .

Yes there is very little social stress, only with my co-workers, but 9 times out of 10 I'm working alone except for when I'm with the head mortician, she's an older woman and is very supportive and understanding with me.

It helps me to feel very close to them, and to those who have passed away. I like being with them at the end, I feel better knowing someone is caring for them. I like to think it makes their families feel a little more at ease as well.

Oh it can be very raw, but I cope very well. Sometimes the smells and noises can be really overwhelming, but slowly I am growing used to that. I've been doing this for 6 months now, not sure if I'll stay though. Like you have, I would like to be a mum one day soon.

Astridlora. x

with me it's a case of my youngest two children are 5 and 2 so they take up most of my time, especially the youngest. I've had to do 'last offices' at work on numerous occasions so it seems that your on begins where mine ends! I can imagine that it's a job with quite low social stress! I'm glad that your work helps you to feel closer to your family. It must still be really raw for you?