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What makes us happy or helps us

Muckworm

Hi Everyone!

 

It occurred to me whilst typing what annoys me in response to another thread that it might be good to share what we find helpful in handling our autism and autistic traits and what makes us happy, if we can feel happy at all.

 

Well as I said in the other thread - chocolate gives me a good feeling and when my head is full and I'm hitting a meltdown, Mum drives me to a big beach or up on to the Moors near where we live and the space and bleakness somehow calms me down - it's like all the stuff in my head gets lost in the space and after a few hours I come back down pretty well.

 

Also, nature for me, talking to animals because I feel they understand me better than humans ever could.

 

So what helps you or makes you happy?

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  • Hope said:

    I find it very hard spending money, particularly on abstract things, such as holidays, haircuts, travel etc. I find it easy buying good food because it is needed and it brings pleasure. I like buying new clothes, but hardly ever buy clothes because I prefer spending my money on food!. I am getting better at spending money on other objects, but still have to keep to a very strict budget even though I am not skint and could easily afford to spend more. The problem is psychological. Money is abstract and it scares me, and I have always struggled with maths

    I have a freind with similar issues. He wont spend money unless he feels he's getting a bargain or at least haggled the price down. He is the opposite tho, he spends all his money on material goods and holidays (he saves a lot too) but he refuses to spend money on food as he views it as a fuel. 

    If we go to a concert in a city a few hours away I tend to drive and let some freinds travel with me. We always split petrol and parking and he tries to argue the price down. So I might drive him a 170 miles and he moans about giving me £10. I can remember threatening to leave him nearly a hundred miles away from home if he didn't pay. Then thinks nothing of spending £4 on a drink, £15 on a shirt, £20 on a recordUndecided 

    Once in a garage on the way back from a concert he argued with an attendant about a sepcial offer. The deal was something like two bars of chocolate for £1.50 and he wanted two king size bars for that price.

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  • Hope said:

    I find it very hard spending money, particularly on abstract things, such as holidays, haircuts, travel etc. I find it easy buying good food because it is needed and it brings pleasure. I like buying new clothes, but hardly ever buy clothes because I prefer spending my money on food!. I am getting better at spending money on other objects, but still have to keep to a very strict budget even though I am not skint and could easily afford to spend more. The problem is psychological. Money is abstract and it scares me, and I have always struggled with maths

    I have a freind with similar issues. He wont spend money unless he feels he's getting a bargain or at least haggled the price down. He is the opposite tho, he spends all his money on material goods and holidays (he saves a lot too) but he refuses to spend money on food as he views it as a fuel. 

    If we go to a concert in a city a few hours away I tend to drive and let some freinds travel with me. We always split petrol and parking and he tries to argue the price down. So I might drive him a 170 miles and he moans about giving me £10. I can remember threatening to leave him nearly a hundred miles away from home if he didn't pay. Then thinks nothing of spending £4 on a drink, £15 on a shirt, £20 on a recordUndecided 

    Once in a garage on the way back from a concert he argued with an attendant about a sepcial offer. The deal was something like two bars of chocolate for £1.50 and he wanted two king size bars for that price.

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