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Dating, relationships and letting someone in.

NAS49604

Hey all 

My name is Joe. I currently work in finance and I need guidance or just an idea to tackle a problem. 

I have Asperger’s syndrome. 

I don’t find it hard to communicate with people, I’m a out going guy, laid back etc. But when it comes to dating, getting into relationships and letting someone in. I struggle to do so and I end up walking away from something which could be great. I know I want to tackle this problem but I’m not sure if it’s my Aspergers or is it just me. 

Ive travelled to America twice on my own to see the world but to also discover things about me which I have. I intend to do more as it’s amazing. 

I was just wondering has anyone had this problem or know of anyone who has this problem and if so, have you overcome and if so, how did you overcome it? 

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  • Hi - I'm Asperger's too.

    I've measured that it is often too high pressure to meet one-to-one in a dating environment for young people - so why not join a bunch of social groups?

    Meetup.com have lots of low-pressure social get-togethers all over the place (coffee meets, meals out, bowling, cinema, country walks, trips to places etc.). Going along to this type of event means you can meet new people in groups so it's a gentle intro where no-one expects anything from you - what you choose to give to the group in terms of your sparkling personality, wit and humour is up to you.

    The Meetup framework means the group 'owner' will create the social events for you - you just sign up and attend - or if you get brave, host your own events.

    From there, you can see if you can meet someone special and see where it goes from there.

  • in reply to Plastic

    Hey thank you for replying. I don’t find it any preassure with dating. Like I’m fine with it it’s just the stage of letting someone in. Like I’ve got better at opening up on how I feel which I find easier than I did. Like I said, I’ve been to the states twice on my own. Met randomly people as it was a tour thing which I found very easy. I stayed in hostels on my own, met people and that was easy. We had a laugh, crack a few jokes etc. Made memories, it was awesome. 

    Thank you for the suggestion though, I didn’t think of that. Thank you Plastic. 

    Have you done the same thing I take it? 

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  • in reply to Plastic

    Hey thank you for replying. I don’t find it any preassure with dating. Like I’m fine with it it’s just the stage of letting someone in. Like I’ve got better at opening up on how I feel which I find easier than I did. Like I said, I’ve been to the states twice on my own. Met randomly people as it was a tour thing which I found very easy. I stayed in hostels on my own, met people and that was easy. We had a laugh, crack a few jokes etc. Made memories, it was awesome. 

    Thank you for the suggestion though, I didn’t think of that. Thank you Plastic. 

    Have you done the same thing I take it? 

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  • in reply to Plastic

    Ah right okay that’s really interesting, thank you for the response. 

  • in reply to NAS49604

    Hi - I'm actually 52 and married for nearly 30 years - I attend the Meetups purely for social interaction to keep me sane(ish) (I left work 3 years ago) but I'm aware that I'm the only married one there - all the others are measuring each other for possible compatibility  - each meeting allows them to spot who they might be more compatible with - like having lots of parallel dates at once without having to spend an evening one-to-one with a nutcase.

    The women I meet seem to think of me as their 'best gay friend' (I'm straight) as I don't pick up on their flirting and I'm happy to listen to them telling me stuff that they should probably keep to themselves. :o)

    If I was looking, this would be a good starting point.