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Suspended and expelled age 5

Sue12

my grandson has autism undiagnosed at the moment but very likely, speach and language delays and social delays. He’s has been suspended  twice in just over a week for distroying the class room. He has a young girl who is class room assistant and no knowledge in this field she has 3 children with adhd and 2 with suspected autism . My grandson is a big boy for his age and he just bust these meltdown in school . He got no communication with anyone as he not understand. My daughter has cried her eyes out over the last two week and is physically and mentally drained. The last straw today they have excluded him . Is there any advice as where she can get some help for him and some support. Has any one experience this with there children that mayb could give me some idea what I can do next. Thank you. 

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  • First of all, breathe.  Has he just started school or is he in Year 1?  School is a noisy, busy, confusing place for all children at the start.  Add in sensory processing issues and communication difficulties and it is easy to see why meltdowns happen - HOWEVER, the safety of the other children and adults is paramount and so I can understand the need to remove him from the situation.  Currently, that involves sending him home.

    Your daughter needs to work with the school here.  If his TA knows nothing about autism, is there someone else there who does?  Could they swop roles, even temporarily?  Is there a safe place in school or in the classroom where he can go if he is feeling overwhelmed?  Does he have known warning signs or triggers?  Could the staff learn these and be able to defuse or direct into a safe place?

    What the school will want (speaking with my governor hat on) is all the children to be able to access appropriate education.  It may be that this school and your grandson are simply not a good fit.  

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  • First of all, breathe.  Has he just started school or is he in Year 1?  School is a noisy, busy, confusing place for all children at the start.  Add in sensory processing issues and communication difficulties and it is easy to see why meltdowns happen - HOWEVER, the safety of the other children and adults is paramount and so I can understand the need to remove him from the situation.  Currently, that involves sending him home.

    Your daughter needs to work with the school here.  If his TA knows nothing about autism, is there someone else there who does?  Could they swop roles, even temporarily?  Is there a safe place in school or in the classroom where he can go if he is feeling overwhelmed?  Does he have known warning signs or triggers?  Could the staff learn these and be able to defuse or direct into a safe place?

    What the school will want (speaking with my governor hat on) is all the children to be able to access appropriate education.  It may be that this school and your grandson are simply not a good fit.  

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