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Retreats

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Our daughter is 25, holds down a responsible job, although a lot of it on nights, and like many autistic people is very bright. However socially she has few friends, and has regularly entered into relationships with extremely undesirable people who have abused her both physically and mentally. As she has very little self confidence and anxiety, she is venerable. As parents we have tried to help her in every way we can, but no matter what we do, she always reverts back to hanging out with people she knows will use her, as she feels hat they accept her, and can't seem to understand that they have ulterior motives.

We wondered if there were any type of retreats for autistic people, where she could meet others who have similar experiences, as it might help her to feel better about herself. We just want her to be happy.

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  • Sounds like me, but I'm two years older. Same story with the abusive relationships etc. 

    What helped me was;

    A. CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) to help teach myself to rely less on the (often feigned for their advantage) affection of others for my happiness- this was my major problem. It was a culmination of a lifetime of masking my autism to avoid being bullied leading me to be very compliant/eager to please, desperate to fit in with people (especially if they appeared successful socially) and with very low self esteem. Extremely vulnerable combination.

    B. Joining a couple of social groups (general geeky pursuits and board games), where I met genuinely nice people who actually had things in common with me, rather than being people I had to "fake it" to fit in with. 

    I hope things get better for her ASAP. It's the worst place to be. x

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  • Sounds like me, but I'm two years older. Same story with the abusive relationships etc. 

    What helped me was;

    A. CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) to help teach myself to rely less on the (often feigned for their advantage) affection of others for my happiness- this was my major problem. It was a culmination of a lifetime of masking my autism to avoid being bullied leading me to be very compliant/eager to please, desperate to fit in with people (especially if they appeared successful socially) and with very low self esteem. Extremely vulnerable combination.

    B. Joining a couple of social groups (general geeky pursuits and board games), where I met genuinely nice people who actually had things in common with me, rather than being people I had to "fake it" to fit in with. 

    I hope things get better for her ASAP. It's the worst place to be. x

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