Diagnosis!

I can now confirm that we have a second diagnosis in the family, my son, age 6.

Again no surprise as we have known for a while, and recognised his behavioural 'issues' for years, even before Autism was mentioned.

I just wish people had listened to us when we first asked for help.

Sorry nobody got back to you with suggestions,    but we didn't really have enough time and neither do we know enough about your situation to come up with realistic ideas.   Try again, though, and give us a bit more background and a bit more notice next time.

I guess the average GP won't have too much in-depth experience of Aspies and their needs, especially adult Aspies.   You may just have to use your GP to get an intro to something more specialised and Aspie-oriented.    

Hi all,

I have an appointment with my GP tomorrow.  Can you give me any suggestions on what I can/should ask for.

I would like access to my local NAS office and know I need him to refer me.  It has been recommended that I am 'signed off' for some time as I am also depressed, I hope that may open up a few doors too.

I'd like access to something relaxing, not sure what if anything is available.  Also some support and help in finding out what I need to change to aid my social skills.

thanks

Jaffa Cakes said:

.... yesterday it was suggested that a Degree is not an unrealistic goal....

Well in the NT world,  a degree would give you status, and quite possibly lead to promotion in your career if those are what you want  and if you think you could handle them.  Remember, though,  that whilst Aspies are pretty good at collecting academic qualification letters after their name,  they often fall down on the human relations side. I'm an Aspie with a modest degree myself and that degree did help me to get up on the ladder in the early days of my career,  but in later years it encouraged my employer to try and promote me out of my comfort zone into areas where relations with people, strategy,  and management techniques were more important than the subject I was good at.

However I also need to learn what I can't do. I have realised only recently that my eye contact is poor, and that I have a problem with remembering faces.  But I didn't know that my face displays no emotion or that I repeat my points within a conversation.

I have a lot to learn. 

That's it!   Sounds to me like you're on the right track there.

Thank you for your comments John, I will have more news soon.

Good.    We'll look forward to that.   

Hi Jaffa Cakes.

I am also a diagnosed female Aspie with a house and a family, and hopefully soon a career (I am currently training as a teacher). Welcome to our 'family'

It's my diagnosis that makes all the difference, I know I am very lucky to have received it, however I have been through hell to get there and it's not over yet.

Now I have a confirmed diagnosis I have been asked to undertake futher analysis, the AQ test and others. I hope to get a confirmation of my IQ.  Especially as I came out of school with basic qualifications and yesterday it was suggested that a Degree is not an unrealistic goal.

However I also need to learn what I can't do. I have realised only recently that my eye contact is poor, and that I have a problem with remembering faces.  But I didn't know that my face displays no emotion or that I repeat my points within a conversation.

I have a lot to learn.  Thank you for your comments John, I will have more news soon.

I wouldn't be too sure that you're one of such a small number,  Jaffa.  Not of female Aspies, anyway,  but of diagnosed females,  maybe yes.   Whilst official statistics indicate there are 4 male Aspies for every 1 female Aspie,  don't believe those figures.  There are probably just as many females as males,   but the females don't get diagnosed because they present themselves and their issues in different ways so that they don't get flagged like males do.

I think it's very good that you are pleased.   We should all be proud of ourselves and what we are,  and recognising our differences,  we should use them to our advantage.  

You are special,   and you know you are one of us now.   That's much more exclusive than before.    You'll probably find other Aspies on here that you can chat and relate to in ways that you've never been able to do with NTs in the past.  

Good luck, and let us know how you get on.