What are your obsessions?

It is amazing how many are into the tech element.  

I was an electronics engineer for many years but now just have a fascination for it and need to upgrade and buy the latest gadgets which I must have and then put to the side when the next one comes along.  I am trying to wean myself away from this habit but it is hard work.

History both local and world history and expanding on the alternative approaches as well where a decision made wrong or rightly (depending on your view point) has such a massive impact on the outcome.

My family history to the degree where hours and hours can disappear as I try to work out the connections and search for information.

Photography where I can thousands and thousands of pictures but only be happy with one single picture.  The others (according to others) are good but I am not happy with them.

Comedy films and programs but not slapstick because to me they are not funny.  

Yeah the book Neurotribes said there seems to be a prevelence of Aspies in tech environments.

I've worked in ultra-high tech my whole life and I pass as NT most of the time - but even I could spot the Super-AS weirdos tucked in their offices unable to communicate with anyone. But they were catered for because they invented the stuff that could be developed into money-spinners.

If incompetence is built in, you need to deduce how other weaponise their incompetence and do the same. Delay, bluff, forget, muddy the water, promise lots of things but deliver the bare minmum - until you can get yourself something better.

I totally understand where you're coming from - I've been in your position. The injustice burns like lava. You have to think about it from an observer's point of view - they've seen you blow up and might think you're the one being unreasonable. If you want to slide into another job, you have to play nice for a while - all the time thinking how much a slight weapons malfunction would stop the boring conversations.

Living without money will be a lot more painful than eating humble pie. Treat it as a challenge about how quickly you can get another/better job compared to how little information you can pass on to your successor. Promise lots of things and just do as little as possible. Let things slide - try to minimise your stress - ask the manager for support and help like you're trying to 'be better' but off load as much as you can to everyone around you. Stop trying. It's the only real weapon you have.

I'm going to have a hard time seeing why I should be humble while managerial and organisational incompetence is built into the company culture.

If I was you I'd be going back (just for the cash - do your job, keep your head down, humbly apologise to anyone you have to, eat as much humble pie as they want you to) and get yourself something new and interesting as soon as you can.

Continual employment looks better on your CV - leaving under a cloud can make getting a better job more difficult.

You are probably in a battle you cannot win - in my experience, no matter how illegally they have behaved, it will end badly because it may come down to a grievance procedure where the NTs have you over a barrel because you probably will be stressed which will cause your inability to fight back correctly under pressure.

Your co-workers are unlikely to want to get involved to support you against the management..

The HR person will be working for the company's point of view.

Just do the minimum you need to at work while browing the job market and sprucing up your CV.

Yep. Their HR is some third party external consultancy.

I'm actively looking at the moment.

I think the best solution is to abandon ship.

I ripped into my boss and the company pretty good so even if I go back it'll probably cause me anxiety.

So I take it it's a small company with no professional HR oversight? I fit in much better in large companies where there is a proper structure (and lots of places to hide between the cracks). All the small companies soon realise that my attention to detail means they can treat me like crap and I am still compelled to keep trying to do my best - at my own personal detiment.

Have you considered looking for a better job?

Tbf he and the old CEO started the company and he was likely forced into his role.

He actively avoids the people side of his role.

Technically he knows a lot but when it comes to people he thinks he knows what he's doing but is generally a tornado of demotivation.

I always wonder what magical super-power an ASC has to be able to bluff their way into staff management - and how would they do staff appraisals. I've been technical managers but I was in charge of technology - and that doesn't give me random grief.

I'm not a medical professional but I'm pretty sure my department manager has some form of ASC.

I'm not a medical professional but I'm pretty sure my department manager has some form of ASC.

If incompetence is built in, you need to deduce how other weaponise their incompetence and do the same. Delay, bluff, forget, muddy the water, promise lots of things but deliver the bare minmum - until you can get yourself something better.

I totally understand where you're coming from - I've been in your position. The injustice burns like lava. You have to think about it from an observer's point of view - they've seen you blow up and might think you're the one being unreasonable. If you want to slide into another job, you have to play nice for a while - all the time thinking how much a slight weapons malfunction would stop the boring conversations.

Living without money will be a lot more painful than eating humble pie. Treat it as a challenge about how quickly you can get another/better job compared to how little information you can pass on to your successor. Promise lots of things and just do as little as possible. Let things slide - try to minimise your stress - ask the manager for support and help like you're trying to 'be better' but off load as much as you can to everyone around you. Stop trying. It's the only real weapon you have.

I'm going to have a hard time seeing why I should be humble while managerial and organisational incompetence is built into the company culture.

If I was you I'd be going back (just for the cash - do your job, keep your head down, humbly apologise to anyone you have to, eat as much humble pie as they want you to) and get yourself something new and interesting as soon as you can.

Continual employment looks better on your CV - leaving under a cloud can make getting a better job more difficult.

You are probably in a battle you cannot win - in my experience, no matter how illegally they have behaved, it will end badly because it may come down to a grievance procedure where the NTs have you over a barrel because you probably will be stressed which will cause your inability to fight back correctly under pressure.

Your co-workers are unlikely to want to get involved to support you against the management..

The HR person will be working for the company's point of view.

Just do the minimum you need to at work while browing the job market and sprucing up your CV.

Yep. Their HR is some third party external consultancy.

I'm actively looking at the moment.

I think the best solution is to abandon ship.

I ripped into my boss and the company pretty good so even if I go back it'll probably cause me anxiety.

So I take it it's a small company with no professional HR oversight? I fit in much better in large companies where there is a proper structure (and lots of places to hide between the cracks). All the small companies soon realise that my attention to detail means they can treat me like crap and I am still compelled to keep trying to do my best - at my own personal detiment.

Have you considered looking for a better job?

Tbf he and the old CEO started the company and he was likely forced into his role.

He actively avoids the people side of his role.

Technically he knows a lot but when it comes to people he thinks he knows what he's doing but is generally a tornado of demotivation.

I always wonder what magical super-power an ASC has to be able to bluff their way into staff management - and how would they do staff appraisals. I've been technical managers but I was in charge of technology - and that doesn't give me random grief.