Published on 12, July, 2020
I am a Brit living in Kazakhstan, over the last year I have seen on three occasions a near neighbor of ours frog marching a 10-14 year old boy down the road with his arms firmly tied behind his back from elbow to wrist.
I spoke to another neighbor about it and she said that the boy was this woman’s ((the frog marcher) eldest daughter’s son, i.e. her grandson. The eldest daughter does not live with them.
The woman looked stressed at the time and the boy seemingly reluctantly complying.
I have not approached this woman as I do not know what I am getting into.
The neighbor I spoke to said that she had heard the boy was autistic.
Any advice out there please?
I'm not sure what the laws are like in Kazakhstan, but that definitely sounds abusive to me. I can't even get my arms to touch elbow to wrist at the back (though to be fair I may be being impeded by my dodgy neck/shoulder area at the moment), that sounds painful D: I would feel obliged to step in somehow if I saw that happen, but I totally understand if you don't feel able to talk to her directly; is there a group akin to the NSPCC out there you could speak to? The authorities sounds like the place to go, whoever they may be.If you do end up saying something directly, prepare to meet a hostile reaction; she might see you as a soft foreigner interfering in things that are none of your business, but I would certainly feel unable to let that sort of behaviour go unchallenged towards any child.Perhaps it would be better to approach with an offer of help/information re. autism if what you've heard is true?
That high-control approach to discipline is no good for an autistic kid whether or not there is physical abuse accompanying it, we absolutely don't deal well with confrontation and there is the potential for real psychological damage there. Just shocked to hear about this TBH. D:
Thanks for your response. There are laws in Kz regarding child care. There has even been an autism forum here in Astana. There is a child line 111, that can be used. My daughter called that number and they said that they could put the ‘complaint’ to the commission level and send people to the house to check conditions!
I’m the neighbor and who knows what the comeback might be from that type of ‘official’ intervention??