Online tests - AQ EQ SQ - From the ARC website

LoCommotion said:

I think that this may have been exactly the kind of practical help she needed, sometimes too much emotion can make things worse, not better.

Maybe, I was made to feel bad for being so unemotional, particularly at the funeral when my mum was crying and everyone was trying to comfort her and I was just standing there biting my lip and twiddling my thumbs because it was so awkward.

Goatworshiper said:

Should make well rounded. 

I hope so but who knows maybe I'm screwing her up by not being as emotional as other mothers, although she herself is not very affectionate. She's always sought out physical affection from my husband and I'm the one she comes to for explanations and to play. We have our own little world in which we can just lay on the floor being silly and making up stories and stuff and finding the weirdest things funny, we have alot of 'closeness' without hugs and things.

Azpie said:

This is exactly how I am. When my daughter is upset over something it's my husband that hugs her and is empathetic to her situation. I'll be standing there making rational observations as to why she shouldn't be upset. So if she has a nightmare he will be holding her and telling her it's alright, etc. I will be saying stuff like "of course your safe, it was a nightmare, it was not real so you don't need to be upset, it's over now because your awake. You can go back to sleep now because the likelihood of having the same dream is very slim to zero, most likely you will have a quite nice dream now."

It works as well, she gets the affection she needs from her dad and I rationalise the whole thing for her, she likes to understand things and so I explain them to her in a way she can understand and process. My husband can get quite irritated when she doesn't seem able to comprehend something so I explain it in a way I know she will just get....I'm 99% sure she's on the spectrum too so it's handy because I think the same way she does and I know how to deal with most things because I know how/why I would react that way, particularly if it's sensory related. I do hug her sometimes but my first reaction is not to but if she needs it and my husband isn't there (or it's him she's upset with) then I can do it but find it awkward and uncomfortable.

Should make well rounded. 

PS Scorpion, I'll have another go when I find sometime. That lot of questions was done when tired.

I've only done the AQ test but scored 42.

Goatworshiper said:

The weird thing is, I dont empathise with people's irrational feelings at all, full stop. When people have rational upset I tell them I feel for them, but can't do anything about it. However when I see people being bullied I become very angry towards the bully.

But yeah sod it. Empathy is overatted.

What does the systemizing one mean? Thats the only thing that's so far cast doubt on me having ASD.

I agree with that statement 100%. In fact I would go on to say that irrational feelings  annoy me incredibly. As you say, when people have a legitimate reason for being upset I can understand why, but even then I can't say that I feel anything for them. I can just see the logic in why they are upset. In either case I can't do anything to comfort them.

I have a real "just shut up and get on with it" attitude to moaning and irrational feelings. I much prefer being like this! 

I agree with what you said about bully’s. Fortunately I have never been bullied. I consciously made an effort to be at least an acquaintance with those types so they left me alone. I feel a real rage inside toward these type of people. If I wasn’t so calm I think I could have not myself into all sorts of situations!

The Systemizing Quotient (SQ) gives a score based on how interested you assess yourself to be in each of the following forms of systemizing. Systemizing is the drive to analyse and explore a system, to extract underlying rules that govern the behaviour of a system; and the drive to construct systems.

I knew I would score high on his after a few questions. I suppose there is a "normal" level of how much detail you should see the world in and just because you are around that level, on its own, doesn’t suggest you have a ASD on not. Its such a massive spectrum with so many types of people.

I agree that some of the questions are badly worded. They need to consider the type of people that are doing these tests. I too had to stop and think on that question. I firstly answered it litterally. No I do not listen to the news. Then I thought that they probably mean, as Scorpion said, do I like to keep up with the news on a daily basis

Azpie said:

As for other people if someone is upset it really annoys me/freaks me out, I hate having to deal with other people's emotions. When my grandmother was dying from terminal cancer my mum would end up in tears on the phone to me because she couldn't cope with looking after her and my neice and doing her job. I would instruct her to get some professional carers in, tell my brother to look after his own kid and take some leave from work, there was no emotional support, I do feel bad about it sometimes but it's just who I am. I will give you a solution to an emotional problem but as for hugs etc nope not happening.

I think that this may have been exactly the kind of practical help she needed, sometimes too much emotion can make things worse, not better.

I answered yes to the questions as to whether you get upset when you see someone suffering on TV.  When I see people suffering on the news or in documentaries I know they are suffering and my reaction is usually one of anger or shock, but as Goatworshipper said really don't know whether this can be called empathy or not.   Perhaps I should have answered no.  I do have a strong sense of right and wrong.  For some reason it angers me more to see animals suffering than people, I'm not sure why.  I guess it's because they are more defenceless than humans.

Goatworshiper said:

What does the systemizing one mean? Thats the only thing that's so far cast doubt on me having ASD.

From what I understand of the EQ/SQ scores it's the difference between the two that can indicate an ASD. If you are an extreme systemizer then it is more likely that you have an ASD as your systemizing is significantly disproportioned to your empathising.

spektral said:

I agree with that statement 100%. In fact I would go on to say that irrational feelings  annoy me incredibly. As you say, when people have a legitimate reason for being upset I can understand why, but even then I can't say that I feel anything for them. I can just see the logic in why they are upset. In either case I can't do anything to comfort them.

I have a real "just shut up and get on with it" attitude to moaning and irrational feels. I much prefer being like this! 

This is exactly how I am. When my daughter is upset over something it's my husband that hugs her and is empathetic to her situation. I'll be standing there making rational observations as to why she shouldn't be upset. So if she has a nightmare he will be holding her and telling her it's alright, etc. I will be saying stuff like "of course your safe, it was a nightmare, it was not real so you don't need to be upset, it's over now because your awake. You can go back to sleep now because the likelihood of having the same dream is very slim to zero, most likely you will have a quite nice dream now."

It works as well, she gets the affection she needs from her dad and I rationalise the whole thing for her, she likes to understand things and so I explain them to her in a way she can understand and process. My husband can get quite irritated when she doesn't seem able to comprehend something so I explain it in a way I know she will just get....I'm 99% sure she's on the spectrum too so it's handy because I think the same way she does and I know how to deal with most things because I know how/why I would react that way, particularly if it's sensory related. I do hug her sometimes but my first reaction is not to but if she needs it and my husband isn't there (or it's him she's upset with) then I can do it but find it awkward and uncomfortable.

As for other people if someone is upset it really annoys me/freaks me out, I hate having to deal with other people's emotions. When my grandmother was dying from terminal cancer my mum would end up in tears on the phone to me because she couldn't cope with looking after her and my neice and doing her job. I would instruct her to get some professional carers in, tell my brother to look after his own kid and take some leave from work, there was no emotional support, I do feel bad about it sometimes but it's just who I am. I will give you a solution to an emotional problem but as for hugs etc nope not happening.

Try doing it again, Goatworshipper.

Particularly when tired or stressed (two things that often make asperger's/autism symptoms more obvious).

I just tried it again, mostly to remind myself of what it's about, and scored 44 this time (whereas I scored 37 last time).

Also, I think some of the items are badly worded, and too specific - for example "I make a point of listening to the news each morning" - for me I think the 'correct' answer is on the 'agree' side, even though I don't listen the news in the morning, I watch it in the evening/at night via the internet, and not every day, but I will make a point of catching up on previous days news when I do - the important bit, I think, being the 'making a point of' not the 'listening' or 'each morning'.

The weird thing is, I dont empathise with people's irrational feelings at all, full stop. When people have rational upset I tell them I feel for them, but can't do anything about it. However when I see people being bullied I become very angry towards the bully.

But yeah sod it. Empathy is overatted.

What does the systemizing one mean? Thats the only thing that's so far cast doubt on me having ASD.

Goatworshiper said:

Aq seems very high and Eq seems very low

Meh, emapthy is for Neurotypicals!

:P

The lower on the EQ, the lower your empathy score. I only got 8 when I did it around the time of my diagnosis. Can't remember what I got for AQ, but it was in autistic range. I will do them again

My scores are:

AQ = 45

EQ = 7

Systemising Quotient = 37 (Average)  

Mind Eye: 17

Your Aspie score: 141 of 200

Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 55 of 200

You are very likely an Aspie

Aq seems very high and Eq seems very low