Any advice appreciated

Hi all. I need some advice about my 11 year old daughter. 

Inmy family, we have always noticed she is quirky but of late, this quirkiness is becoming more apparent and worrying. She suffered from tics a year ago, so much so I thought she may have Tourette's. This waxed and waned for a while and now has virtually gone.

Since she was small, she won't wear buttons, I've recently discovered its because people will see her wearing them, not she doesn't like them. She also seems to have echolalia (repeating phrases from t.v. Or people) 

She comes home from school and sometimes just shouts out random noise as if she's been holding it in. She has no real self awareness, will get in your face, not angrily. Doesn't get jokes or sarcasm. No real bond with family besides me. She can be in her own little world, humming grimacing general noise making. Gets very excited and animated over food. Always wanting to eat and remembers people by the food they ate, eg. Oh, I remember her, she had a jam sandwich. If anyone eating loudly she shouts and leaves the room. There's more but I won't go on.

She does well in school and they have no concerns tho whenever they go out or on a bus,  she always seems to be the one walking on her own, while the others are paired up (not through her choice). also, the older she gets the more her immaturity is showing, can't say she has changed since at least 8 years old

Could she have ASD. Any advice would be great :) 

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  • Your welcome Im glad to help if I can, I think you're doing the right thing if you try for an assesment at least then you would know either way.

    For me I'd always been a bit different change and things would get me so worked up id be ill but the doctors said it was nothing even though my mum kept trying. Then I was diagnosed with depression wen i was 19 so we put my symptoms down to that but the end of last year i was declared no longer depressed and my Mum then decided if it wasnt depression it had to be something else my sister had been to a meeting about autism and spent the whole time saying Oh my god thats my sister. So we looked into it and went to the doctors the first one said no and wouldnt refer me the second doctor did refer me but said it wasnt Aspergers just social anxiety. They were both wrong. It only took 3 months from going to the gp to getting diagnosed. 

    For me comprehensive school was ok I'd had a really hard time at primary school was bullied by pupils and teachers and it was very very strict, so when i got to comp it was totally different i had a group of friends all kind of the misfit girls, I didnt really go out much outside of school but it was nice to have friends in school.
    I learned that a lot of people with asperger's learn how to sort of act like a neuro typical person which i think I did when I was at comp, but then i was just me at home it sounds like your daughter may be doing the same thing.

    I understand that, its a big change, if you manage to get a diagnosis she should get extra support, to help her cope.
    I think having you to help her through it will help as well.

    I'm still really learning myself but
    for diagnosis I printed off the list of symptoms on the NAS website then wrote examples of how i met the ones i did meet,it helps so you dont forget anything when at the gp or psychologist and I took my pschologist a copy he was thrilled and kept it and read it.
    And the other thing, remember you know her better than anybody, so if you get a no like i did dont give in till you have got the answers you both need.

    Sorry for the long reply
    please keep us informed what happens
    and Good luck Smile xx

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  • Your welcome Im glad to help if I can, I think you're doing the right thing if you try for an assesment at least then you would know either way.

    For me I'd always been a bit different change and things would get me so worked up id be ill but the doctors said it was nothing even though my mum kept trying. Then I was diagnosed with depression wen i was 19 so we put my symptoms down to that but the end of last year i was declared no longer depressed and my Mum then decided if it wasnt depression it had to be something else my sister had been to a meeting about autism and spent the whole time saying Oh my god thats my sister. So we looked into it and went to the doctors the first one said no and wouldnt refer me the second doctor did refer me but said it wasnt Aspergers just social anxiety. They were both wrong. It only took 3 months from going to the gp to getting diagnosed. 

    For me comprehensive school was ok I'd had a really hard time at primary school was bullied by pupils and teachers and it was very very strict, so when i got to comp it was totally different i had a group of friends all kind of the misfit girls, I didnt really go out much outside of school but it was nice to have friends in school.
    I learned that a lot of people with asperger's learn how to sort of act like a neuro typical person which i think I did when I was at comp, but then i was just me at home it sounds like your daughter may be doing the same thing.

    I understand that, its a big change, if you manage to get a diagnosis she should get extra support, to help her cope.
    I think having you to help her through it will help as well.

    I'm still really learning myself but
    for diagnosis I printed off the list of symptoms on the NAS website then wrote examples of how i met the ones i did meet,it helps so you dont forget anything when at the gp or psychologist and I took my pschologist a copy he was thrilled and kept it and read it.
    And the other thing, remember you know her better than anybody, so if you get a no like i did dont give in till you have got the answers you both need.

    Sorry for the long reply
    please keep us informed what happens
    and Good luck Smile xx

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