The fine line between needing to be social and needing solitude.

Does anyone else have problems with this balancing act? If not I'm just getting this off my chest.

I feel odd when I'm with people, without being insulting towards other humans I find they frustrate the life out of me. I find people just don't really have much valid to say. At the moment I'm sick of hearing people being demonised for claiming benifits, by people who claim working tax credits, child tax credits etc. I'm not in a position were I personally need to claim benifits, however I'm not into the demonisation of the ill and unemployed. It's not only this issue, people just being wide of the mark on lots of topics, science denialist's tend to be particulary frustrating.

I'd like to get on with people a lot more, I enjoy being social (within my small circle of friends). But I just find people stupid, ignorant and inhumane. I'm generally misanthropic and tend to upset people quite frequently by telling them that human life is cheap and explaining about a history of slave labour, concentration camps etc. Well I say upset, I think it just annoys people as It questions thier humanitarian ideals. I suppose thier lies my problem, hypocritical humanist whom don't see that they treat humans particulary badly. For instance they want to save the world and help African children, but have a poor attitude to work colleages.

I went to Auschwitz recently and people seem perplexed that I didn't get upset from the visit. I find it very odd: when I here people talking about how they think other people should be dealt with for not working (and not conforming to thier belief system), I can easily see how something as big as Nazi Germany could escalate. I find it so odd that people think that work is the only important thing in life. Surely there has to be more to life than self regulated slavery?

Today I cut my grass with mp3 player on and it was just bliss. Solitude and the world blanked out.

Wierdly, I still crave some social activities even tho people frustrate the life out of me. 

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  • Jon said:

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    I know i should socialise and part of me wants to but it is soo hard i get so anxious going places, feel like my heads gunna explode when more than one person talks and hate talking on the phone. Its supposed to be fun and Im totally stressed out and cant wait till its over Undecided

    I don't even answer the phone nearly almost all of the time. I hate talking on it. Especially if I don't know who it will be on the other end and what they want to talf about. If its my mobile I can see if its my partner ringing so I might get it. Texts are OK, although I have to think hard about how to reply. One aspect of a phone call I don't like is that I don't know where its is going. It is jsut a blank. If I am making a call about something straight forward (an order or appointment) then I can just blunder on through, but if the topic goes off track then that can get tricky as I have not planned for that. It is not on the list I have made.

    I do enjoy my own company more, i like the peace to go on my computer, read or sew and just be me stress free for a while even just watching some telly.

     

    I really can relate to that. Having that  space/place where you can just do your own thing. Safe with no interuptions. I paint, but more recently I have been spending most of my spare time making tracks on my laptop. Being able to focus on something and cut out the world is fundamental in feeling OK.

    Yeah i find texts ok but it can sometimes take me a few times of rewriting it before i decide to send it.
    Exactly appointments or something quick like that so i know wot i have to say isnt to bad, but if its a conversation its like a nightmare by the time i get off the phone im exhausted and worrying if i said something wrong.

    Yeah its like creating a bubble or haven around yourself to protect you from the world i guess nothing else exhists at that point just you doing what makes you feel happy i think we definitly need that time.
    Its nice to know someone feels the same :-) wot tracks have you been making?

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  • Jon said:

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    I know i should socialise and part of me wants to but it is soo hard i get so anxious going places, feel like my heads gunna explode when more than one person talks and hate talking on the phone. Its supposed to be fun and Im totally stressed out and cant wait till its over Undecided

    I don't even answer the phone nearly almost all of the time. I hate talking on it. Especially if I don't know who it will be on the other end and what they want to talf about. If its my mobile I can see if its my partner ringing so I might get it. Texts are OK, although I have to think hard about how to reply. One aspect of a phone call I don't like is that I don't know where its is going. It is jsut a blank. If I am making a call about something straight forward (an order or appointment) then I can just blunder on through, but if the topic goes off track then that can get tricky as I have not planned for that. It is not on the list I have made.

    I do enjoy my own company more, i like the peace to go on my computer, read or sew and just be me stress free for a while even just watching some telly.

     

    I really can relate to that. Having that  space/place where you can just do your own thing. Safe with no interuptions. I paint, but more recently I have been spending most of my spare time making tracks on my laptop. Being able to focus on something and cut out the world is fundamental in feeling OK.

    Yeah i find texts ok but it can sometimes take me a few times of rewriting it before i decide to send it.
    Exactly appointments or something quick like that so i know wot i have to say isnt to bad, but if its a conversation its like a nightmare by the time i get off the phone im exhausted and worrying if i said something wrong.

    Yeah its like creating a bubble or haven around yourself to protect you from the world i guess nothing else exhists at that point just you doing what makes you feel happy i think we definitly need that time.
    Its nice to know someone feels the same :-) wot tracks have you been making?

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