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The fine line between needing to be social and needing solitude.

Goatworshiper

Does anyone else have problems with this balancing act? If not I'm just getting this off my chest.

I feel odd when I'm with people, without being insulting towards other humans I find they frustrate the life out of me. I find people just don't really have much valid to say. At the moment I'm sick of hearing people being demonised for claiming benifits, by people who claim working tax credits, child tax credits etc. I'm not in a position were I personally need to claim benifits, however I'm not into the demonisation of the ill and unemployed. It's not only this issue, people just being wide of the mark on lots of topics, science denialist's tend to be particulary frustrating.

I'd like to get on with people a lot more, I enjoy being social (within my small circle of friends). But I just find people stupid, ignorant and inhumane. I'm generally misanthropic and tend to upset people quite frequently by telling them that human life is cheap and explaining about a history of slave labour, concentration camps etc. Well I say upset, I think it just annoys people as It questions thier humanitarian ideals. I suppose thier lies my problem, hypocritical humanist whom don't see that they treat humans particulary badly. For instance they want to save the world and help African children, but have a poor attitude to work colleages.

I went to Auschwitz recently and people seem perplexed that I didn't get upset from the visit. I find it very odd: when I here people talking about how they think other people should be dealt with for not working (and not conforming to thier belief system), I can easily see how something as big as Nazi Germany could escalate. I find it so odd that people think that work is the only important thing in life. Surely there has to be more to life than self regulated slavery?

Today I cut my grass with mp3 player on and it was just bliss. Solitude and the world blanked out.

Wierdly, I still crave some social activities even tho people frustrate the life out of me. 

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  • Haythml said:

    I decided to, for example, look at religion and faith as a whole and try listening to everyones viewpoint. Previously I felt I had some right to tell people they were wrong, and would argue and argue.

    That wasn't  social interaction, that was me spouting. 

    While admittedly I sometimes rant, I tend to find I rant in frustration. For instance I can listen, I love being introduced to new concepts to do with thought and outlook. I'm really honest and open in the sense that I claim nothing is absolute. It is each individuals perception of reality/spirituality, and it is thier right to participate in whatever they choose. The frustration for me kicks in when I find people are completely rigid in outlook, when I hit this, it is when I tend to point them to the arbitary nature of thier outlook and even admit some of mine is this way. I find lots of people are one dimensional, when they are claiming to be "cultured" or "creative" or "innovative" but are rigid in outlook I just despair.

    This is just one topic but it can happen on many

     Sustaining a conversation is tiring and feels like acting.

    This sentance jumped out at me. I talk to people at work all the time and this is exactly how I feel. Sometimes I go home and I can't remember a single conversation as it's just so boring. Occasional I might bang into some one interesting, but that is very very rare. 

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  • Haythml said:

    I decided to, for example, look at religion and faith as a whole and try listening to everyones viewpoint. Previously I felt I had some right to tell people they were wrong, and would argue and argue.

    That wasn't  social interaction, that was me spouting. 

    While admittedly I sometimes rant, I tend to find I rant in frustration. For instance I can listen, I love being introduced to new concepts to do with thought and outlook. I'm really honest and open in the sense that I claim nothing is absolute. It is each individuals perception of reality/spirituality, and it is thier right to participate in whatever they choose. The frustration for me kicks in when I find people are completely rigid in outlook, when I hit this, it is when I tend to point them to the arbitary nature of thier outlook and even admit some of mine is this way. I find lots of people are one dimensional, when they are claiming to be "cultured" or "creative" or "innovative" but are rigid in outlook I just despair.

    This is just one topic but it can happen on many

     Sustaining a conversation is tiring and feels like acting.

    This sentance jumped out at me. I talk to people at work all the time and this is exactly how I feel. Sometimes I go home and I can't remember a single conversation as it's just so boring. Occasional I might bang into some one interesting, but that is very very rare. 

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