The fine line between needing to be social and needing solitude.

Does anyone else have problems with this balancing act? If not I'm just getting this off my chest.

I feel odd when I'm with people, without being insulting towards other humans I find they frustrate the life out of me. I find people just don't really have much valid to say. At the moment I'm sick of hearing people being demonised for claiming benifits, by people who claim working tax credits, child tax credits etc. I'm not in a position were I personally need to claim benifits, however I'm not into the demonisation of the ill and unemployed. It's not only this issue, people just being wide of the mark on lots of topics, science denialist's tend to be particulary frustrating.

I'd like to get on with people a lot more, I enjoy being social (within my small circle of friends). But I just find people stupid, ignorant and inhumane. I'm generally misanthropic and tend to upset people quite frequently by telling them that human life is cheap and explaining about a history of slave labour, concentration camps etc. Well I say upset, I think it just annoys people as It questions thier humanitarian ideals. I suppose thier lies my problem, hypocritical humanist whom don't see that they treat humans particulary badly. For instance they want to save the world and help African children, but have a poor attitude to work colleages.

I went to Auschwitz recently and people seem perplexed that I didn't get upset from the visit. I find it very odd: when I here people talking about how they think other people should be dealt with for not working (and not conforming to thier belief system), I can easily see how something as big as Nazi Germany could escalate. I find it so odd that people think that work is the only important thing in life. Surely there has to be more to life than self regulated slavery?

Today I cut my grass with mp3 player on and it was just bliss. Solitude and the world blanked out.

Wierdly, I still crave some social activities even tho people frustrate the life out of me. 

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  • In the past I have tried to socialise and fit in. I think I have fooled myself and those around me sometimes. More and more I am acknowledging what I don't enjoy.  Socialising often seems pointless as the reality of it is both difficult and unrewarding. I do like spending alot of time on my own but by avoiding the world I have become more isolated. I do not try new or different things and this has made my life somewhat limited. Depression and boredom is often the result of my desire to avoid the world. My social circle is ever increasingly small. In the past I have been more out going but now I find myself saying less as it is easier. Sustaining a conversation is tiring and feels like acting. Some of the reasons why I find people difficult:

    • They are not interesting
    • I do not understand where they are coming from
    • I do not think I can be myself and honest with them
    • I feel awkward and self-concious
    • I do not think they will understand me
    • I do not know what to say

    It makes many situations seem difficult. On the one hand I want to do things and on the other I don't.......so yes, it is a 'fine line between needing to be social and needing solitude'.

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  • In the past I have tried to socialise and fit in. I think I have fooled myself and those around me sometimes. More and more I am acknowledging what I don't enjoy.  Socialising often seems pointless as the reality of it is both difficult and unrewarding. I do like spending alot of time on my own but by avoiding the world I have become more isolated. I do not try new or different things and this has made my life somewhat limited. Depression and boredom is often the result of my desire to avoid the world. My social circle is ever increasingly small. In the past I have been more out going but now I find myself saying less as it is easier. Sustaining a conversation is tiring and feels like acting. Some of the reasons why I find people difficult:

    • They are not interesting
    • I do not understand where they are coming from
    • I do not think I can be myself and honest with them
    • I feel awkward and self-concious
    • I do not think they will understand me
    • I do not know what to say

    It makes many situations seem difficult. On the one hand I want to do things and on the other I don't.......so yes, it is a 'fine line between needing to be social and needing solitude'.

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