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The fine line between needing to be social and needing solitude.

Goatworshiper

Does anyone else have problems with this balancing act? If not I'm just getting this off my chest.

I feel odd when I'm with people, without being insulting towards other humans I find they frustrate the life out of me. I find people just don't really have much valid to say. At the moment I'm sick of hearing people being demonised for claiming benifits, by people who claim working tax credits, child tax credits etc. I'm not in a position were I personally need to claim benifits, however I'm not into the demonisation of the ill and unemployed. It's not only this issue, people just being wide of the mark on lots of topics, science denialist's tend to be particulary frustrating.

I'd like to get on with people a lot more, I enjoy being social (within my small circle of friends). But I just find people stupid, ignorant and inhumane. I'm generally misanthropic and tend to upset people quite frequently by telling them that human life is cheap and explaining about a history of slave labour, concentration camps etc. Well I say upset, I think it just annoys people as It questions thier humanitarian ideals. I suppose thier lies my problem, hypocritical humanist whom don't see that they treat humans particulary badly. For instance they want to save the world and help African children, but have a poor attitude to work colleages.

I went to Auschwitz recently and people seem perplexed that I didn't get upset from the visit. I find it very odd: when I here people talking about how they think other people should be dealt with for not working (and not conforming to thier belief system), I can easily see how something as big as Nazi Germany could escalate. I find it so odd that people think that work is the only important thing in life. Surely there has to be more to life than self regulated slavery?

Today I cut my grass with mp3 player on and it was just bliss. Solitude and the world blanked out.

Wierdly, I still crave some social activities even tho people frustrate the life out of me. 

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  • I guess I'm of a converse nature. I try to get involved and do things - well i cannot do the social thing, so I've more "time on my hands" (loopy visual metaphor).

    I'm fortunate not to have dyslexia which affects many on the spectrum, so I write well. It does leave a problem whereby I don't come over in person anything like the way I come over in print.

    Unfortunately I had a tendancy to rant and rail at the world when younger, and it took years to learn that doesn't get anywhere.

    So I try to nudge things .... a little bit here and there...sticking to where I have knowledge. I've found the capacity to research means I can compete by being thoroughly informed.

    It is harder face to face because I carry so much in my head it tends to lose my audience, though having taught much of my career, a good lesson plan well-prepared keeps me out of trouble and effective.

    I still rant.... I'm inclined to be very pedantic at times, and have to watch hard. Word processors give more time to think things through (better than tippex and a typewriter where some letters were crackly), but I have to be careful with email.

    But I do hold that you can influence things if you are prepared to take things slowly, a small shove at a time.  And if you make sure you have your facts absolutely right, and some balance (much harder). I have published books and I have affected change. Certainly not made a lot of friends - and no honours - too forthright and controversial. Blessing is I cannot do the social or friendship thing anyway.

    So don't stop caring. Its what keeps life going.

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  • I guess I'm of a converse nature. I try to get involved and do things - well i cannot do the social thing, so I've more "time on my hands" (loopy visual metaphor).

    I'm fortunate not to have dyslexia which affects many on the spectrum, so I write well. It does leave a problem whereby I don't come over in person anything like the way I come over in print.

    Unfortunately I had a tendancy to rant and rail at the world when younger, and it took years to learn that doesn't get anywhere.

    So I try to nudge things .... a little bit here and there...sticking to where I have knowledge. I've found the capacity to research means I can compete by being thoroughly informed.

    It is harder face to face because I carry so much in my head it tends to lose my audience, though having taught much of my career, a good lesson plan well-prepared keeps me out of trouble and effective.

    I still rant.... I'm inclined to be very pedantic at times, and have to watch hard. Word processors give more time to think things through (better than tippex and a typewriter where some letters were crackly), but I have to be careful with email.

    But I do hold that you can influence things if you are prepared to take things slowly, a small shove at a time.  And if you make sure you have your facts absolutely right, and some balance (much harder). I have published books and I have affected change. Certainly not made a lot of friends - and no honours - too forthright and controversial. Blessing is I cannot do the social or friendship thing anyway.

    So don't stop caring. Its what keeps life going.

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