Birthday stress

Hi all. How are you?

It's my birthday tomorrow and for some reason i am petrified. I'm going out tomorrow night with a few friends and family - it's like the only time i go out at night.

I just feel so worried and anxious though. Scary thought that i am here still when so many i've lost are not.

Oh well moan over. Sorry. Hopefully i will wake in better mood.

Take care all.

Anne.

Parents
  • I also know how you feel. I completely hate any kind of party or celebration. They often involve lots of people, having to wear different clothes, go to a different place and it has noisy music. If I could I would treat my birthday, Christmas, Easter, Halloween and all other days as 'normal' days. I would also not have bank holidays, inset days (at school) or weekends. Their are so many different times when this type of upset can happen because of change. 

    I really hate it at school when people make a big fuss over things, such as my birthday. My 16th birthday earlier this year was the first birthday I have ever had in school. It was also the first day back. I was desperate to get back to the routine and to school again but it was a terrible day because I had to miss 2 lessons for a party. I hated everyone involved. I hate even mentions of these events-so even scorpion saying happy birthday above would wind me up if that was me. 

    It goes further in that presents scare me. Last Christmas was horrible for me because I was with my dad for the first time. I was diagnosed Autistic in December which could have helped dad know how to help me but he did not care about me being autistic and I struggled. I spent many a time hiding in my bed away from all the people that came and being unable to appear happy and enjoying the party to my younger brother.  I also hid after arguments. I remember being terrified because I was confused and everyone was shouting. 

    I realise my hate for partying and anything different is perhaps quite extreme but your dislike means you are defiantly not alone! Going out at night is scary too. 
    It is good that you are with friends and family-so people that you know well. I think it would really help you if sometime tomorrow before you went you quietly spoke to someone and explained that you are scared and anxious and ask if they could try to stay with you. Believe me-going in crowded places it really helps having my mum next to me all the time. (but she gets annoyed when I follow her everywhere-just as a warning) 

    I hope tomorrow goes okay for you and I am sorry for the long post. 
    Amy 

Reply
  • I also know how you feel. I completely hate any kind of party or celebration. They often involve lots of people, having to wear different clothes, go to a different place and it has noisy music. If I could I would treat my birthday, Christmas, Easter, Halloween and all other days as 'normal' days. I would also not have bank holidays, inset days (at school) or weekends. Their are so many different times when this type of upset can happen because of change. 

    I really hate it at school when people make a big fuss over things, such as my birthday. My 16th birthday earlier this year was the first birthday I have ever had in school. It was also the first day back. I was desperate to get back to the routine and to school again but it was a terrible day because I had to miss 2 lessons for a party. I hated everyone involved. I hate even mentions of these events-so even scorpion saying happy birthday above would wind me up if that was me. 

    It goes further in that presents scare me. Last Christmas was horrible for me because I was with my dad for the first time. I was diagnosed Autistic in December which could have helped dad know how to help me but he did not care about me being autistic and I struggled. I spent many a time hiding in my bed away from all the people that came and being unable to appear happy and enjoying the party to my younger brother.  I also hid after arguments. I remember being terrified because I was confused and everyone was shouting. 

    I realise my hate for partying and anything different is perhaps quite extreme but your dislike means you are defiantly not alone! Going out at night is scary too. 
    It is good that you are with friends and family-so people that you know well. I think it would really help you if sometime tomorrow before you went you quietly spoke to someone and explained that you are scared and anxious and ask if they could try to stay with you. Believe me-going in crowded places it really helps having my mum next to me all the time. (but she gets annoyed when I follow her everywhere-just as a warning) 

    I hope tomorrow goes okay for you and I am sorry for the long post. 
    Amy 

Children
No Data