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Have Just been diagnosed with High Functioning Asperges

Rose
over 6 years ago

I am a 24 year old female that was recently diagnosed with asperges I feel the diagnosis has made me doubt my self doubt my intelligence and feel so lost. I am at a point where I want to have a career but I can't even handle applying for university. Everything affects me so easily and any minor setback can push me back 100 steps. I want to pursue my dream and be a teacher one day but I am suffering from a lot of anxiety and stress and dont have the family support. I am so scared of waking up one day and feeling like my life has been wasted. I do feel like this disorder is a curse in a lot of ways as it affects so much of my life. I would like to get married and have children and have the career like any other person I just don't know how to take the first steps. Can anyone give any tips or advice or share your own experiences. 

Thanks

Parents
  • over 6 years ago

    I don't think you need to doubt your intelligence or any other aspect of 'You'. Having Asperger's doesn't make your intelligence, or any other aspect of 'You', less REAL. You are intelligent AND you have Asperger's AND you have life ambitions, career ambitions, fears, and hopes just like anyone else. 

    Olympic athletes aren't born the perfect physical specimens we see winning medals, architects aren't born with the skills to design their ideal home, you weren't born with the knowledge to get this far in your education. Each of you WERE born with a genetic make-up that made these things POSSIBLE but each of you have worked HARD to build upon that and make use of it and turn it into something that you aspire to. Just because your particular genetic make-up equals Asperger's too, that doesn't make it less real, or viable, or honest than anyone else's, just as we don't minimise the athletes or the architects achievements as 'genetic flukes'. Your intelligence is just as real as anyone else's! 

    Yes, there are aspects of Asperger's that can feel like a curse at times, but there are aspects of being anything that feel like that: a Mum, a woman, a social worker, a teacher, a single person or a married person! I think you may already know all of this but, as BlueRay said, it definitely takes time to acclimatise after the diagnosis. Everything feels a bit, well, wobbly for a while. I think it's natural to be shaken by the news, even if you were expecting it, I certainly was / am and I'm still getting used to the idea but what I'm holding onto is that I'm most definitely still me! (For good and bad.)

    Actually, after a nine month pregnancy, I still remember being shaken by the news that I had an actual baby! That I was a MUM!! I think any big change in how we see ourselves is going to take time to adjust to but it IS just that - how we SEE ourselves. You, in fact, haven't actually changed at all. It turns out I managed to be 'Me' and 'Mum'. I think we'll each figure out how to be 'Me' and 'Asperger's' much easier because we've actually been doing it all this time without knowing it! 

    I hope this helps.     

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  • over 6 years ago

    I don't think you need to doubt your intelligence or any other aspect of 'You'. Having Asperger's doesn't make your intelligence, or any other aspect of 'You', less REAL. You are intelligent AND you have Asperger's AND you have life ambitions, career ambitions, fears, and hopes just like anyone else. 

    Olympic athletes aren't born the perfect physical specimens we see winning medals, architects aren't born with the skills to design their ideal home, you weren't born with the knowledge to get this far in your education. Each of you WERE born with a genetic make-up that made these things POSSIBLE but each of you have worked HARD to build upon that and make use of it and turn it into something that you aspire to. Just because your particular genetic make-up equals Asperger's too, that doesn't make it less real, or viable, or honest than anyone else's, just as we don't minimise the athletes or the architects achievements as 'genetic flukes'. Your intelligence is just as real as anyone else's! 

    Yes, there are aspects of Asperger's that can feel like a curse at times, but there are aspects of being anything that feel like that: a Mum, a woman, a social worker, a teacher, a single person or a married person! I think you may already know all of this but, as BlueRay said, it definitely takes time to acclimatise after the diagnosis. Everything feels a bit, well, wobbly for a while. I think it's natural to be shaken by the news, even if you were expecting it, I certainly was / am and I'm still getting used to the idea but what I'm holding onto is that I'm most definitely still me! (For good and bad.)

    Actually, after a nine month pregnancy, I still remember being shaken by the news that I had an actual baby! That I was a MUM!! I think any big change in how we see ourselves is going to take time to adjust to but it IS just that - how we SEE ourselves. You, in fact, haven't actually changed at all. It turns out I managed to be 'Me' and 'Mum'. I think we'll each figure out how to be 'Me' and 'Asperger's' much easier because we've actually been doing it all this time without knowing it! 

    I hope this helps.     

Children
  • over 6 years ago in reply to Endymion

    Hi Thanks for the response yes I think you are right it is about acceptance and not realising I have not changed as a person however it is still a lot to take in and It isn't going to be easy. And congrats on being a mum it gives me hope that I can too be a mother eventually one day I just have to work on myself and find who I am as a person.