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Neighbours are a nightmare

Starbuck

My partner and I live separately and we used to have an arrangement where I would stop at his house for a week and then he would stop at mine for a week or so.

Over time this have changed so that we are now spending more and more time at my house as a result of the neighbours who live next door to my partner.

They are not a quiet family and have two small children.  I can deal with generally family noise up to a point, but the two adults just spend all their time screaming and shouting at their kids.  I am not a parent, but it seems to me that the kids are craving attention and are just met with utter rage and despair from their parents.

The adults don't seem very nice people in my opinion, but I haven't witnessed or 'heard' them hitting their kids, just lots and lots of shouting, followed by lots of crying.  This goes on everyday and every moment they are in the house.  They also have a dog that they never walk or allow outside - again shows their attitude towards other living creatures.  The whole household just seems a dysfunctional mess.

I also feel sorry for the kids as I remember how scary it was being screamed at as a kid.  I can only try and imagine what it must be like for them.  Is it worth contacting the authorities as I would hate to sit by and do nothing if it was linked to child abuse.  I don't like getting involved in other people's business, but this is getting a bit much now and spending Christmas at my partner's house has made me realise how bad it is.

  • Thanks everyone.  We have tried turning the TV up and talking louder to try and make a point that sound does travel, but it has had no use.

    I appreciate that taking things further may lead to further issues and suspicion on their part.  I'll start to make a note of events and then if it does get so bad I have to report it, at least it is an accurate account and not just seen as having a personal vendetta.  

    Surprisingly, the dog never barks, which I find very unusual given the chaos that goes on in the house and the fact the dog is always copped up indoors.

    We have gone as far as installing sound proof insulation, which has reduced the overall noise, but you can still hear them.

    I have spoken with my partner about and he reckons it might be best we spend more time at my house in the long run, where maybe he moves in.  It's sad that it has come to this as we had a good system that was working between us.  I know that people with ASD are generally more sensitive to noise, but I still struggle to understand how people live like this.  There must come a point surely when they stop and think what the hell are we doing?