Sleep mares and schools

Still having problems sleeping & having nightmares and reading on this website others problems with getting children to school, just brings back bad memories of my school days!

Last night I had 6 hours sleep. 3hours sleep, then 2hours in pain and watching DVDs then another 3hours sleep.  So better than average.  The nightmares involved engaging with two people who died years ago.  Why on earth did I dream about them?

I don't drink. (Don't enjoy alcohol. )

I don't take drugs. 

I don't have sleeping tablets. (Overdose/suicide risk )

I don't socialise. (Don't really know how)

My school memories are so bad, I don't understand why parents are so obsessed with sending their children to school regularly.  School just made my mental health worse.

I mentioned previously that I attended 7 different schools by the age of 12. Here are brief details of my experience

WARNING this is a rant!!!!

School A.

First day was 'bad', I remember other children trying to talk to me but I understood nothing they were saying. I wet myself because I didn't know how to ask about toilets or how/what/where......I just sat there.

The next 3 years were a living nightmare. I was physically beaten every school day by the teachers for not speaking, not paying attention, not following instructions or just for unknown reasons.  Apart from crying I was mute.  I missed school for weeks at a time.

After long absences, the school, my parents with interpreters, eventually discovered the obvious that I didn't understand spoken English.  My parents were East European refugees.  So I was sent to.

School B.

My first special school. A school for kids with language difficulties.   Here I was the only white kid in the school with one traumatised black boy and around 50 Asians.  All shunning me and constantly referring to me as the 'englishhhhhh'  got no help in this school.  After around 4 weeks I was expelled.  And so...

School C.

Another normal school very similar to school A.  Except I was no longer mute.  I was an 8 year old with an English vocabulary of a 4 year old.  The violence was infrequent and I actually managed to talk and interact a little with other children.

School D.

This was a Saturday morning school that my parents sent me when I was 8.  Saying that I would love being with my own people.  It was an absolute nightmare. First day, teacher collected last week's  homework and asked us to turn to page 29 of the book to continue where we left off.  

There I learnt nothing.  I was shunned, bullied etc and every time I was dragged there I was thinking of walking out into the road and under a bus , rather than going there.

My attendance was under 50% and after a year I stopped going.  Another year later I was sent there again.  As a 10 year old this time, starting again with 8 year olds.  Again, started a few weeks late and I hated the place and I was shunned by the other kids. 

School E

Was the middle school following on from school C.  I found the change to a new school with new kids very difficult to handle.  And after refusing to go to school for several months I was sent to.

School F

Another special school.  Which I  described a few weeks ago.  This was a cross between a school and a psychiatric ward and I fitted in fairly well. After a year I was returned back to ...

School E for a second time.  This time it was tolerable and I coped up to a point.  Then

School G 

A secondary school , full of problems. New school, new children who knew each other from previous schools.  I knew no one.  Totally alone, bullied and shunned I withdrew socially into myself.

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  • Me again. I apologise for, as I said, still not as yet knowing precisely which topic this is Thread is after - if it was not rhetorical...
    But I post this... to say that being "fascinated" with nightmares is NOT what I myself wanted to post about. Yet I was awaiting specific intervention (management?) from the Starter of the Thread himself, if at all.

  • Disallowed Cynosure said:

    Me again. I apologise for, as I said, still not as yet knowing precisely which topic this is Thread is after - if it was not rhetorical...
    But I post this... to say that being "fascinated" with nightmares is NOT what I myself wanted to post about. Yet I was awaiting specific intervention (management?) from the Starter of the Thread himself, if at all.

    Well, as you see I quote what I am referring to, and I am as I stated fascinated in nightmares as much as any other thematic type of dream, including therefore the paranormal also as you stated.

    The reason I made no direct reference to your post was that I had not read it at the time I had decided upon the content of my post, which was composed since last night as an opener to engage in discussions with Robert123 ~ if he was interested in so doing; or anybody else for that matter ~ what with this being an open forum and all that.

  • I had more dreams last night.  Thus time involving the living.  These were again very confused. About living in. House with my sister and niece and we had cowboy builders in.  There was also confusion about how old everyone was and what city we were in.  This was a new dream.

    Often I have recurring dreams.  Or Ones that carry on from earlier ones.  Sometimes years apart.

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  • I had more dreams last night.  Thus time involving the living.  These were again very confused. About living in. House with my sister and niece and we had cowboy builders in.  There was also confusion about how old everyone was and what city we were in.  This was a new dream.

    Often I have recurring dreams.  Or Ones that carry on from earlier ones.  Sometimes years apart.

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  • Thank you kindly for that which you write... yet, just to let you know that "Emoticons" do not always show up upon all of the devices which I use... 

  • Disallowed Cynosure said:

    After Mister Robert123's Post which I read *after* my other Posts including THIS Post...
    So...this Thread IS about Dreams or "Nightmares" (about school or not.)? NOT about ("real") Schooling Or bad/inappropriate schooling?

    I do very much apologise for any misunderstanding... I do that a lot? (I *am genuinely* confused about Internet manners...)

    I can, now that I know what to specify, attempt to venture more Posts upon that topic. But not just yet, since I appear to have begun a bit of a flap... (I also have bad dreams almost everyday, for instance.

    and

    Robert123 said:

    No need for apologies.  I have not taken any offence.

    I agree also that there is no need for apologies, as I have not taken any offence either, and my explanation about using quotes was purely an explanation for clearer understanding and comprehension.

    I also myself make great effort in considering the variables of meanings, and making mistakes in communication is perfectly acceptable here ~ given firstly that this is the NAS website for people with ASD and those who care about people with ASD, and secondly that we learn far more from our mistakes when we able to use them as defining and refining retakes ~ not reasons for exclusion or shame; absolutely not.

    I shall endeavour to be more proficient in the use of emoticons as Robert123 has wisely done. Relaxed 

  • Robert123 said:

    I had more dreams last night.  Thus time involving the living.  These were again very confused. About living in. House with my sister and niece and we had cowboy builders in.  There was also confusion about how old everyone was and what city we were in.  This was a new dream.

    Houses in dreams represent our overall psychological or inner character, with the rooms representing our psychological characteristics or mental states ~ as which particularly in each case embody or facilitate the conscious experiences of ourselves, and as through which our experiential awareness of our conscious personality or self integrates and as such collectively develops ~ all-be-it confusedly as such in the given sense.

    Robert123 said:

    Often I have recurring dreams.  Or Ones that carry on from earlier ones.  Sometimes years apart.

    The recurrent themes that carry on through our dreams tend to occur regarding issues that correlate with the consistent autistic nature of our experiential character, and that have as yet to be satisfactorily resolved. Consider for instance being unsettled and confused in the autistically incompatible sense of having been moved around and about and on many occasions getting educated by 'cowboys' and 'cowgirls' ~ in the sense of education for people with A.S.D. having only recently started becoming more bespoke and befitting.

  • No need for apologies.  I have not taken any offence.

    I am under a lot of stress at the moment and my mind wanders all over the place as do my posts.  And I believe this is affecting my dreams.  And the violent/fantasy/sci-fi  DVDs i watch at night areJack o lanternoing a lot of damage to mental stability Jack o lantern

  • After Mister Robert123's Post which I read *after* my other Posts including THIS Post...
    So...this Thread IS about Dreams or "Nightmares" (about school or not.)? NOT about ("real") Schooling Or bad/inappropriate schooling?

    I do very much apologise for any misunderstanding... I do that a lot? (I *am genuinely* confused about Internet manners...)

    I can, now that I know what to specify, attempt to venture more Posts upon that topic. But not just yet, since I appear to have begun a bit of a flap... (I also have bad dreams almost everyday, for instance.)