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Difficulty communicating with family ?

Nadielou

Hi, 

So I know with the spectrum we have different levels of difficulty with talking to new people and forming friends etc.

However I'm wondering if anyone has difficulty with talking to their family just as general day day to bases? I feel I've gotten worse as I've gotten older.

I enjoy talking to.my mum the most and then my nan. However I hardly speak to.my granddad anymore not because I don't want to but I just find him difficult to talk to now unlike when I was little. He also as a grandad likes to talk about random thing I admit I'm uninterested in or it just goes on for to long.

I also struggle to speak with my brother we hardly communicate but this has been since he was born as I just don't no what yo talk about or understand him especially.now he has become a teenager . 

Does anyone else have similar problems ? 

  •  you for reply and sharing with me.

    I was just wondering if it was me being rude and obnoxious or it was somethi g more. Or maybe both 

    I find since not living with them it's defiantly gotten worse. 

    I'm not one to text much or have phone conversations although I do try and make the effort (although still falls short) indont do social.media either which doesn't help.

  • in reply to Spotty Tortoise

    you've just got to find people yr comfortable with.

    Problem I have is that I generally am a very open book. I crave attention, yet will go out to avoid it at the same time.

    I have a few friends who will actually put up with my '***'. maybe that comes with being open about things and talking about stuff when I can, even if the other person looks like they're gonna die of boredom. :D

    Since I've posted on FB about the situation, I've had more support from people who have known me since 97-2000, than I have from people who have known me for less than 5years.

    Its good that this forum is here cos you can sound off without having to make eye contact and we are all reading.

  • in reply to Chewie

    it's like i feel like I HAVE got to sort stuff out by myself.

    ......the sound of the head of a nail being hit! 

  • Yes, I talk to my Mum and Step Dad, except that I have a text message from them two weeks old that I haven't answered and all conversation is fairly superficial unless it's about art or recent tentative talks about the state of my stupid head.

    Not actually sure I've ever had a conversation with my sister, she's odd too, but a very different kind of odd to me.

    Haven't seen or spoken to my Dad in years and years for no particular reason, or so I thought until recently. (I'm pretty convinced he has ASD too).  I don't like the woman he married and find her far too stressful to be around, so gradually I just stopped visiting, I've barely used the phone in twenty years and he isn't computer literate so that pretty much shuts down all lines of potential communication.

    Communication is my biggest problem now, I'm becoming sub lingual on a one to one basis, including on here and it's starting to scare me as I don't know how to stop it getting worse or reverse it.

    Happy days...

  • yup.

    comes and goes though. depending on how settled im feeling. if I have that cloud of self worthlessness, i wont say a word.

    it's like i feel like I HAVE got to sort stuff out by myself.

  • Yep....

    not spoken to my mum for the past three years

    not spoken to my sister for the past three years

    ditto my brother

    ermm...

    both paternal and maternal gradparents have passed away

    which......leaves my dad....who is also socially awkward.....and we struggle, but he gives it a go.....

    Typical conversation:

    dad: “are you ok?”

    me: “no, not really”

    dad: “oh,”