Dealing with a death in the family?

Hey,

Just a quick one...

Ive just got work that my Nana will not be around for much longer, My son is very close and we have for the past 3 months while shes been ill have discussed about her joining Grandad in heaven etc.

I fear that he is understanding me. We have do the whole life cycle, talked endlessley about it and i feel that he is listening to me.

The subject of death does upset him, i think its the thought of someone leaving forever.

Whats the best way to see this through with him? will he ever understand that once she dies thats it shes gone or do i need to prove it...(horrid thought!)

Do i take him to the funeral so that it finalises the process? Whould he cope with what is going on around him? Would it be too stressfull for him? Whould it be worse for him to go and see all the grief or helpful?

Hmmm any ideas... xx

P.s Sorry if thats sounds like i dont love me nana to bits but i have had time to process the detiration. I think its for the best :(

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  • I think you should take him to the funeral.

    We, on the spectrum, do process grief differently, and you may think he doesn't understand, and isn't grieving, but he probably does, and will be.

    We tend to internalise emotion. And it can therefor take much longer to process it. It's also less obvious that we are doing so.

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  • I think you should take him to the funeral.

    We, on the spectrum, do process grief differently, and you may think he doesn't understand, and isn't grieving, but he probably does, and will be.

    We tend to internalise emotion. And it can therefor take much longer to process it. It's also less obvious that we are doing so.

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