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Spitting

sonia

I have read the section on challenging behaviour as suggested my Jim. My problme is I can't just ignore his spitting or wipe it away because when he spits he does it full on in my face. I have to tell him off, he understands that it isn't ok but will do it when he is angry. He is intelligent and good at verbal communication. I am scared because when you look at Ben you wouldn't know he has anything wrong with him. people will deal with him as a naughty disgusting child, I have to get him to behave appropriately!

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  • I don't think there's a script you can follow for this kind of thing.

    Just remember we, on the spectrum, often lack the built-in understanding of another persons thoughts or feelings that neuro-typicals apprently have, however we can usually reach such an understanding intellectually.

    So, I think you need to talk through the issue with your son, ask him how he would feel if someone spat in his face, and inform him how you feel when he does it to you.

    Just saying things like "It's wrong" or "you shouldn't do it" are unlikely to work because there's no logical reasoning behind them.

    It has to be logical.

    Maybe discussing the surrounding issues of germs and the spreading of disease would help.

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  • I don't think there's a script you can follow for this kind of thing.

    Just remember we, on the spectrum, often lack the built-in understanding of another persons thoughts or feelings that neuro-typicals apprently have, however we can usually reach such an understanding intellectually.

    So, I think you need to talk through the issue with your son, ask him how he would feel if someone spat in his face, and inform him how you feel when he does it to you.

    Just saying things like "It's wrong" or "you shouldn't do it" are unlikely to work because there's no logical reasoning behind them.

    It has to be logical.

    Maybe discussing the surrounding issues of germs and the spreading of disease would help.

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