Not feeling great today, in fact I've not been feeling great for a while. I make plans to do things at the weekends but end up not doing anything. Constant over thinking, health isn't great and too much running through my mind.
Not feeling great today, in fact I've not been feeling great for a while. I make plans to do things at the weekends but end up not doing anything. Constant over thinking, health isn't great and too much running through my mind.
I find distraction often helps - unless it's depression which needs medical attention [total inerta, constant negative ruminating et al]. Distraction can be any kind - sounds, watching TV/ video, reading, a short walk, a bit of gardening. If it's exhaustion, staying in bed but still looking after myself, ie food, warmth, my laser galaxy projector and not doing chores until I feel like getting out of bed. I find it hard to begin but once I've done one thing then I feel as if I've achieved something. Thus, I try to do one thing a day min, no matter how I feel. Yes, your diagnoses are gut wrenching, yet you CAN survive this.
I try to do what I can though.
That's the whole point about life. I wish schools would teach kids at an early age that:
1. everyone has an individual path in life
2. never judge yourself by others or what others say
3. 'success' is the difference between where you started and where you are now. It's a lifelong process.
Im so sorry your going through all of this monty.Im.newly diagnosed too at 58.its a hard thing to process.I imagine physical ill health on top is terribly.draining.Working alongside.is burn out material.i too try to work but its easier said than done
Please give yourself grace..your feelings are valid.
Keep on trying to.access shout if you can.Or reach out to people here
Ive known i am autistic for a long time but recently diagnosed, I was diagnosed with liver chirossis last Christmas, I was rushed into hospital 2 months ago for an emergency operation on strangulated intestine from a hernia and was in intensive care. Currently on a transplant list for my liver. I think im getting a delayed reaction to being in hospital. My body aches all the time, im not as mobile as I was and ive had to return to work part time as cannot live on benefits that's offered. Im coming home and then sleeping. Everything is getting me down and I know my life will never be as it was before I had bad news.
Be kind on yourself. We all go through such times and they feel like they'll never improve, but they do. Many of us feel bad after a diagnosis and it takes time to adjust to knowing you're wired differently. I received my diagnosis a few weeks ago, in my early 70s, and I'm still adjusting. Yes, parts of my life might have been different had I known, but it's really only in the last few years that many women have been able to be diagnosed, so it just wouldn't have been possible for me. Try to give yourself time, even though it's difficult.
Hi Neil, I’m sorry things are so hard at the moment. I’m glad you’re reaching out to the community and I hope the responses you get here help. I’m sorry the SHOUT service was busy yesterday, you may find it useful to try some of the other options below.
Our page on seeking help for mental health also includes some information on other places you can turn to for support.
We do recommend that you get in touch with your GP and explain to them how you're feeling. They will be best placed to direct you to suitable support. If your GP is closed, you can call 111 for NHS support. In England, Wales and Scotland, you can now choose option 2 to speak directly with mental health professionals: https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/urgent-and-emergency-care-services/when-to-use-111/. 
I hope this is useful and you have a better day today.
Best wishes,
Anna Mod
Ive texted to "SHOUT" service tonight but they are busy. I feel im getting worse mentally after having the Autism diagnosis, all those years as a child wasted , being sent to a special school for kids with behaviour problems, being called odd or a loner. I knew I was different but I didn't think it would take 50 years to have it confirmed. Now I just feel kicked to the kerb to get on with my way of life and thoughts.
I can identify with your experience NeilM. I often feel frustrated with myself for not 'achieving' as much as others, whether it be at the weekend or not. A part of me always wishes I was like others who seem to have great purpose and motivation. I try to do what I can though.
It can be like that. It's not an easy thing to go through and you've done well to talk about it. We can need a lot of time to be away from stress and demand and burnout can be a really hard thing to go through. Just because you're not managing to do the things you feel that you need to do doesn't mean you're doing wrong, or badly.
Giving yourself time and kindness and trying not to blame yourself and/or beat yourself up is a good start to finding energy to do things but it's a good thing to do even if it doesn't move you towards doing things in the short term.
If it helps and you need someone to talk to you can message me any time, or just keep talking here if it's easier for you. You're not alone, I, and many of us, know what it's like to go through similar things.
I think it seems to be most of the time
I hope that your day improves. Try not to be too hard on yourself when you end up doing nothing, it's like that sometimes and being kind to yourself can help in the long term.
