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TheCatWoman

Why things like white noise others find soothing and I find really irritating and frequently painful?

Like vibrating things, I can't use an electric toothbrush because the vibrations tickle and itch, anything stronger than this like a massager and I find them painful too?

I see lots of threads about things like this and they're always things that are recomended to autistic people, but they don't work for me and I wonder why, if theres something wrong with me as these things are so common. Another one is fidget toys, they leave me cold, is it because I'm just autistic and don't have ADHD as well?

I feel like theres a lot of confusion about where one leaves off and the other begins and that not having ADHD as well is a bit of a disapointment to many professonals? Although I think so few of them actually listen properly they may just shove stuff at people that dosen't work for them and then don't have anything else left.

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  • I really like your question! (I am ASD but not ADHD) 

    I suspect there is a more than a bit of a "One Size Fits All" approach from professionals. I know I can do this too at times.  It is not easy, for me, to take on board the seemingly endless many faceted features of other people's autism. So, I have some sympathy with professionals faced with a conveyor belt of people who are or may be ASD. 

    So,
    Fidget toys are a no for me. Although I always carry a few wooden beads on a cord and find I am playing with, without knowing. Electric toothbrushes can be tolerated but but I don’t like them. Some colours will be stressfully harsh but others will be glimmers. Light levels, colour and quality are similar.  Smooth things like ice-cream, glassware, etc. are glimmers and rough things like sandpaper, brickwork, etc. are stressful/ergh. I don’t mind being tapped on the shoulder but really struggle with a single filament of spider silk on my skin. I have been known to spend 30 minutes plus seeking out an irritant that is embedded in a shirt collar.  The list is endless,

    Of course, the irony is I had to wait 7 decades to find that I had always been the explanation.   

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  • I really like your question! (I am ASD but not ADHD) 

    I suspect there is a more than a bit of a "One Size Fits All" approach from professionals. I know I can do this too at times.  It is not easy, for me, to take on board the seemingly endless many faceted features of other people's autism. So, I have some sympathy with professionals faced with a conveyor belt of people who are or may be ASD. 

    So,
    Fidget toys are a no for me. Although I always carry a few wooden beads on a cord and find I am playing with, without knowing. Electric toothbrushes can be tolerated but but I don’t like them. Some colours will be stressfully harsh but others will be glimmers. Light levels, colour and quality are similar.  Smooth things like ice-cream, glassware, etc. are glimmers and rough things like sandpaper, brickwork, etc. are stressful/ergh. I don’t mind being tapped on the shoulder but really struggle with a single filament of spider silk on my skin. I have been known to spend 30 minutes plus seeking out an irritant that is embedded in a shirt collar.  The list is endless,

    Of course, the irony is I had to wait 7 decades to find that I had always been the explanation.   

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  • in reply to Oscar

    I'm glad you like he question and I agree it's not easy to take on board the seemingly endless facets. Other people seem to like this less. I'm not a fan of being tapped on the shoulder, as it triggers my cPTSD and my reponse is a bit violent and I lash out. Spiders and anything to do with them are a no no. But, did you know that spiders webs were used as wound dressings years ago? There are a few fabrics I really don't like, but what I find really odd is that I can be fine with two individual types of fabric, but put them together and its horrible!