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Let down again

TheCatWoman

I was supposed to be having family come down and help me move a load of my friends stuff out of the house an into a storage unit ready for the electrician to come and do a load of work thats been waiting for a year and a half, its been cancelled due to various illnesses 3 times and now it looks like a 4th as everyones ill including my step son who has the trailer that was going to move all furniture.

I know its no ones fault, again, but I'm so fed up and exhausted, I've been busting a gut for the last 6 weeks getting everything ready and now it's all systems stop instead of go. 

It just feels like another one of those times when I feel that theres no point in asking anyone to do anything as I will be let down at the last minute, now I've got to try and cancel the storage unit and hope I can get my money back £150. I really do feel so fed up and let down, I so wanted all this work done so as I can get on with other things like decorating, now I'm physically and mentally stuck. I don't know whether to cry  or bang my head against the wall.

  • Thank the Gods, they came today and have moved everything, so now I can get the electrics done. All the big stuff is in the storage unit and now we just need to lift the carpets.

    I think I'm so used to being let down and the last on everyones list of importance that I just can't trust anymore.

    The stuff belongs to the friend who used to live here and he can't move it due to now being pretty much wheelchair bound and having dementia. 

    Mum made her "dangerous" trifle and I made a big cottage pie with loads of greens and gravy, my sons like to have "Mum food" every now and again and trifle is always welcome.  

  • I can fully understand how you must feel, it’s happened to me on many occasions. It’s led me to not ask for help, I would rather do something myself and know it’s done.I find ‘trades’ are the worst, often a no show stops other work from happening.I’ve ended up quite depressed and thinking it must be my fault.

    I appreciate you can’t move large items on your own, I’ve used a company called Shiply.com  just put in the collection and delivery address or postcodes, what it is and when you need it moved. Quotes will start to come back, I’ve found them very cheap and reliable. I’ve even had non running cars moved over long distances. All carriers are fully insured.

    Another option is a local ‘man with a van.’ They tend to be good value.

  • I'm a bit confused over why it's up to you to move your friend's stuff out. Why isn't your friend doing it?

  • TheCatWoman said:
    I don't know whether to cry  or bang my head against the wall.

    Neither! Do what you do at the TV - shout at the room about annoying relatives, unexpected illness and life's slings and arrows. Then take a deep breath and begin your favourite recovery method.

    Mine usually involves eating and/or drinking something delicious, going in the garden or going online and buying something small from my Amazon wish list [I always have a lot of these, which is handy if you have unexpected money left after bills and food shopping]. I hope by the time you come back online that a solution has come about. And I wonder why your family always leave it to you to sort things out? You must have a reputation for getting things done!