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How do I explain my limitations to my parents?

bookwormmoth

I am 28 years old. My parents are putting pressure on me to get a job and move out of the house, but I struggle with basic tasks and chores and need to use 'spoons' to measure my capacity to do things. I am worried about what job I could hold and keep with my limitations. I am thinking of doing admin work.

How do I explain to my parents in a calm and respectful manner that I want to be independent, but that I also live with limitations. They won't even allow me to cook the meal for the day.

Any form of advice or encouragement is appreciated. Thank you.

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  • Hi. I have a son and am gradually showing him how to do different things, so hopefully he will be able to cope independently one day. This is a very gradual thing.

    There are lots of aspects of living independently, for example housework, cooking, using a washing machine as well as budgeting. I wonder if you can make a list of things you need to practise and explain to your parents that you want to become independent, but need some help to allow you to try things at a pace you can cope with. In respect of cooking perhaps you could have a list of simple meals that don't require too much preparation.

    In respect of working, I am not sure whether you receive Universal Credit or PIP. If you were receiving PIP this might allow you to work part time to make it more manageable. With admin work it might be possible to work from home. 

    I personally find it helpful with chores to plan ahead so they are spread out with periods of rest.

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  • Hi. I have a son and am gradually showing him how to do different things, so hopefully he will be able to cope independently one day. This is a very gradual thing.

    There are lots of aspects of living independently, for example housework, cooking, using a washing machine as well as budgeting. I wonder if you can make a list of things you need to practise and explain to your parents that you want to become independent, but need some help to allow you to try things at a pace you can cope with. In respect of cooking perhaps you could have a list of simple meals that don't require too much preparation.

    In respect of working, I am not sure whether you receive Universal Credit or PIP. If you were receiving PIP this might allow you to work part time to make it more manageable. With admin work it might be possible to work from home. 

    I personally find it helpful with chores to plan ahead so they are spread out with periods of rest.

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