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Is it just me?

Expecto_Patronum

I've been waiting a while now to get a therapy appointment through. This is my 4th attempt at therapy so I'm nervous to say the least. I got an email to say that I have been allocated a practitioner and would be sent an appointment soon so that it can commence in the next few weeks.

I had a moment of relief when the email came and I knew it would actually be happening and then worry took over. When is soon? What does soon mean? If it's starting in the next few weeks and they aren't sending the appointment out now, how much notice will I actually have? What if the letter doesn't arrive in time. My post can be a bit hit and miss due to living in a flat. What if I don't get the letter and miss the appointment?

I know this is largely anxiety which is the reason I need the appointment. But does anyone else really struggle with things like this? I'd love to be a person that could just put it aside and wait for the letter.

Part of me wants to reply and ask that they email me once they have posted the letter so that I can keep an eye out for it or just email the letter to me as well so I have it as soon as it's sent. But this guy has already done more than I would have expected on NHS therapy and I don't want to me a nuisance.

  • in reply to Hergé

    Yes I agree. Open ended timelines are awful and NHS ones just seem to increase and increase. I can't rant too much though because this guy has been very helpful and understanding.

  • in reply to Marianne72

    Yes I think I will do that on Monday. 

  • It bothers me too.

    Just email back to say thanks and ask if they could also email the appointment as your mail is not always reliable.

    It is quite a reasonable request. No need to feel bad about doing it. It is what most people would do and is not a nuisance.

  • in reply to Homebird

    Me too. I have found their timescales never seem to be accurate so I'm also aware that a few weeks may turn out to be a lot longer than a few weeks. I guess he doesn't want to put a deadline that might not happen. It confused me a little that if they intend it to start so soon, that soon was the indicator of time for the letter. I'd have defined in a few weeks as soon. Knowing this however, would really increase my anxiety that I had missed the letter when a few weeks has passed. I think I will email back on Monday and request that.

  • Open ended timelines are awful and the NHS and in particular the mental health services are the worst of the lot. The NHS app is almost useless as some hospitals & services don't use it.

    For me being neurodivergent seems to be a barrier, just because I've been diagnosed with autism doesn't mean my depression and anxiety magically disappeared. Sorry for having a rant.

  • I would have no problem emailing that, because of autism, I struggle with anxiety and would prefer an exact date or indication of how much waiting is involved. Also, tell them of difficulties you have with post and could they text you or email when the letter is on the way. 

    I get worried all the time about anticipatory things like this and think it's commonplace. Look at it a type of performance nerves. And, after all, FEAR = false evidence appearing real. If you explain, as above, you are not being a nuisance, only allaying anxieties.

  • I understand your concern, especially with post. Asking for it by email sounds a good idea. I prefer when people say something is coming that they give an idea of time, such as after...or by....if can't be more specific.