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Feeling Unsettled - Familiar to anyone

Literal_Joe

So here's my situation - I'm selling my house and buying a new build, but I offered to sell mine before the new one was ready, and am going on a trip for 6 weeks in the gap between.

We exchanged contracts today and complete next week - I thought I'd been very organised with everything, started going through my things ages ago in the plan etc, and moving my stuff out into storage in two van moves, a week apart... 

However, I now feel a way that I don't think I've felt before. Difficult to explain, but I'll try ... It's like I'm vacant of emotion but then feel tearful throughout the day ... Feeling very unsettled and extremely unsure (although I'm not regretting anything, or wanting to change anything regarding the move and my choices). I'm quite miserable and can say that I have absolutely no excitement about my upcoming trip or my new house, which should be ready to move in to in about 2 months ... 

I don't think I've had autistic burnout before as an adult (now 46), and wondering if that could be it ??

For context - This whole move follows a period of great difficulty with work, spanning over about the last 7 years, which led to me retiring early. I'm moving to a different county for a 'new start', for reasons I won't bore everyone with, but it's what I felt I needed to do for about the last two years. 

This is also the first time that I've 'moved' a full house, if that makes sense. I really hope that I can cheer up or something before I go on my trip (which is Australia, New Zealand and Canada)

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  • good luck with your move - selling/buying and moving are big upheavals for all.  So expect it will take some time to process.  Home is my safe space: probably same for most of us - or we want it to be, and it never is quite 100%

    Hopefully the transition physically and mentally will be good for you in time - and that you enjoy your trip and be in the moment on that , sounds exciting places to go (is it the wrong way round ? Thinking) .  Happy Travels and wish you well in your new home

    I think how you are feeling is part of the process and easier said that do, do not overthink, it will pass, but that's doesn't say don't notice it or acknowledge it or its easy, maybe journal this and see if how you feel changes over the comign weeks ?  you've been through a lot over recent years - and now you made some big life decisions (that takes a lot of strength/insight to do ) which should improve your life.  In future you will look back and rather than think was it the right decision, you will say it was the best thing you did for yourself. 

    I wish I could make a decision like you have or done something sooner - hopefully I'm not past being able to in the coming years: and may be sooner as life especially work seems harder since diagnosis.

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  • good luck with your move - selling/buying and moving are big upheavals for all.  So expect it will take some time to process.  Home is my safe space: probably same for most of us - or we want it to be, and it never is quite 100%

    Hopefully the transition physically and mentally will be good for you in time - and that you enjoy your trip and be in the moment on that , sounds exciting places to go (is it the wrong way round ? Thinking) .  Happy Travels and wish you well in your new home

    I think how you are feeling is part of the process and easier said that do, do not overthink, it will pass, but that's doesn't say don't notice it or acknowledge it or its easy, maybe journal this and see if how you feel changes over the comign weeks ?  you've been through a lot over recent years - and now you made some big life decisions (that takes a lot of strength/insight to do ) which should improve your life.  In future you will look back and rather than think was it the right decision, you will say it was the best thing you did for yourself. 

    I wish I could make a decision like you have or done something sooner - hopefully I'm not past being able to in the coming years: and may be sooner as life especially work seems harder since diagnosis.

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