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Feeling Unsettled - Familiar to anyone

Literal_Joe

So here's my situation - I'm selling my house and buying a new build, but I offered to sell mine before the new one was ready, and am going on a trip for 6 weeks in the gap between.

We exchanged contracts today and complete next week - I thought I'd been very organised with everything, started going through my things ages ago in the plan etc, and moving my stuff out into storage in two van moves, a week apart... 

However, I now feel a way that I don't think I've felt before. Difficult to explain, but I'll try ... It's like I'm vacant of emotion but then feel tearful throughout the day ... Feeling very unsettled and extremely unsure (although I'm not regretting anything, or wanting to change anything regarding the move and my choices). I'm quite miserable and can say that I have absolutely no excitement about my upcoming trip or my new house, which should be ready to move in to in about 2 months ... 

I don't think I've had autistic burnout before as an adult (now 46), and wondering if that could be it ??

For context - This whole move follows a period of great difficulty with work, spanning over about the last 7 years, which led to me retiring early. I'm moving to a different county for a 'new start', for reasons I won't bore everyone with, but it's what I felt I needed to do for about the last two years. 

This is also the first time that I've 'moved' a full house, if that makes sense. I really hope that I can cheer up or something before I go on my trip (which is Australia, New Zealand and Canada)

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  • Hey Joe, it's such a lot of up-heaval in your life and it sounds like you are trying to not to let yourself feel emotional about the move when it's absolutely okay to feel different emotions about it, even sadness. It's ending a huge chapter in your life that has been hard and all the emotions of that could be catching up on you. I think emotions are hard, especially if your autistic and you logically think you should be feeling a certain way, but the weight of it can still hit you hard, and make you feel unsettled. 

    It can feel difficult to move out without your new place being ready, it's a big change, and you might accept you may not feel fully settled until you are unpacking again in your new place?

    I hope you can still enjoy your trip, it's probably something you'll enjoy in the moment, but with everything else it's okay not to be feeling excitement at the moment. Could you be feeling a little down about all the difficulties you've endured even while happy it's ending? It might be better in the long run to allow yourself sometime to feel sad now, but then move on from it, with your trip and your move, it should hopefully really help. 

    Have a good time for when you're ready to enjoy your trip!

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Thank you. You seem to make sense of it more than I do, because I certainly can't put my finger on what it is. 

    I do tend to think logically and rationally, and I know that when I was searching for (researching) the new house, chasing it up until it was released for sale (about 6 months!!) and then finally reserving it - I was excited!! Perhaps therefore logically I think I should be excited, and now don't understand why I'm so despondent 

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  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Thank you. You seem to make sense of it more than I do, because I certainly can't put my finger on what it is. 

    I do tend to think logically and rationally, and I know that when I was searching for (researching) the new house, chasing it up until it was released for sale (about 6 months!!) and then finally reserving it - I was excited!! Perhaps therefore logically I think I should be excited, and now don't understand why I'm so despondent 

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