I need some help with social situations

Hi everyone,

I’m currently dealing with severe autistic burnout and some really heavy, stressful family situations in my real life. My energy is at absolute zero, and I'm struggling a lot lately.

The issue is that an online friend group I’ve known for years has recently come back into my life. The last time we interacted, things ended badly. I recently joined a live stream with them, and immediately realized I don’t want this group in my life any more. I just want to move on and focus on my mental health and my family.

Because they know a bit about me (like my general location/city), my brain has gone into a massive overthinking and panic loop. They have been checking in on me about my family situation, but even though they are trying to be okay, I feel completely overwhelmed and trapped by the social pressure.

I’m too anxious to do a big action like blocking everyone or leaving the group chat because I’m scared of the confrontation, but I cannot stop ruminating on it and I feel like I'm losing it.

Has anyone else experienced this kind of digital panic while already in burnout? For now, I am just planning to go completely quiet and leave my phone in a drawer over the weekend to get space. Is just staying silent without blocking a good idea? How do I get my brain to stop treating this like an active danger?

Just really not good at all this stuff really struggle with anything social can barely communicate with a lot of my family let alone dealing with all this so any help at all is great.

Thank you so much.

  • Thank you yeah I’m just not very good at this stuff so very much appreciate it

  • For now, I am just planning to go completely quiet and leave my phone in a drawer over the weekend to get space.

    I think you will get a much better response if you just send a message to the group that you need to take a break for a few weeks as it is becoming overwhelming for you. It will be completely true, direct and should get everyone to stop messaging you.

    You may get a few replies wishing you well or saying that they are available if you want to talk but there will be no expectation of a response.

    If practical you can just delete the app and this will stop the messages until you are ready to re-engage and reinstall the app.

    It can be a struggle to write the message itself so I have written one you can copy and adapt if this feels easier.

    "I will be taking a few weeks break from communicating as it has become difficult for me to continue to contribute positively. This is through no fault of yours but I need some space to reset before returning. Please note I will not be responding to your messages until this time. Thank you for your understanding, it means a lot to me."

    Good luck with whatever you choose to do.