General questions/advice about therapists

Hi, I had countless therapists and mostly useless or downright harmful. I had somewhat given up on therapy then my university offered to fund some sessions with a therapist who is neurodivergent himself. It made a huge difference and I still talk to him now occasionally. The only other person that has consistently helped me is my dietitian, who is much more than that and has offered so much emotional support and she’s the one that realised I might be autistic. I think it is important to listen to your instincts. I generally feel good talking to these people or even if it’s emotionally charged and I feel more stressed or drained immediately afterwards, I still feel that it was helpful. I think with these 2 people I very quickly realised that it was the right fit. I think recognising that it’s not the right fit with previous therapists took me longer as I had never experienced what it was like to see the right person. I think warning signs are having to constantly explain things, not feeling understood, feeling like they are trying to make you fit into a box but it just doesn’t seem to apply. A lot of my previous therapy experiences were before knowing that I am autistic - I think what I felt strongest was a that I was beeing misunderstood. Not sure if any of this is helpful. I think that maybe wondering whether it’s the right fit or not is actually a sign that it’s not the best fit as I think you would know if it was. 

Hi, I had countless therapists and mostly useless or downright harmful. I had somewhat given up on therapy then my university offered to fund some sessions with a therapist who is neurodivergent himself. It made a huge difference and I still talk to him now occasionally. The only other person that has consistently helped me is my dietitian, who is much more than that and has offered so much emotional support and she’s the one that realised I might be autistic. I think it is important to listen to your instincts. I generally feel good talking to these people or even if it’s emotionally charged and I feel more stressed or drained immediately afterwards, I still feel that it was helpful. I think with these 2 people I very quickly realised that it was the right fit. I think recognising that it’s not the right fit with previous therapists took me longer as I had never experienced what it was like to see the right person. I think warning signs are having to constantly explain things, not feeling understood, feeling like they are trying to make you fit into a box but it just doesn’t seem to apply. A lot of my previous therapy experiences were before knowing that I am autistic - I think what I felt strongest was a that I was beeing misunderstood. Not sure if any of this is helpful. I think that maybe wondering whether it’s the right fit or not is actually a sign that it’s not the best fit as I think you would know if it was.