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anxiety and depression

pinkchocoholic

Hi

Just wondered if anyone else has trouble with anxiety and depression and going places? 

It's like I'm wanting to go then I 'chicken out', as I think the saying is, because I'm too scared what people think. Or I feel too tired to go, but also I have the energy to. 

This along with my autism I'm finding it hard, as I'm already different due to my autistic traits, and then my anxiety and depression worsens it.

I don't regret my autism it's what makes me unique! I'm just wanting to be more independent and able to go places on my own, even if it's just to an activity class I would enjoy and be able to spend the whole time there. 

I've got online peer support classes I go to, even though I was a little nervous at first (they're for autistic people, so my nerves weren't that high). 

I have got techniques to help my anxiety and depression which I use and it helps me with the things I already do, but I've yet to go and do new things.

Sorry for the long message, just wondering if other people experience this and can share ways that they overcome it

  • Hello,

    In June 2022 when I first attended the group,  I nearly had a heart attack as the fellow women got on with the task. We painted pebbles. A few days later I didn't feel right as haven't done anything for ages.

    Skipped the second session (bingo isn't for me); 3rd session still feeling nervous and we painted bird boxes.

    Some of my family members said oh it's for retired people (duh! It's open to all women of all walks of life);

    The reason I go because the organiser asked me what's happening with the library volunteers (heard nothing from the library);  Now the library has got two volunteers who need prompting and admit they don't use the library. Why not ask me to return? I know the library system as been using it since I was 3 years old (I'm in my 40s); library is now open Tuesday and Thursday. Saturdays is closed for the foreseeable future. 

    The group meetings can change without any warning. The defib CPR training has been cancelled twice. Also some of the upcoming meetings are in cryptic. Like one is ceramic painting, which could be anything. 

    Same goes to the church events as wary what people going to ask me. Also anyone I know.

    I live in paranoid land as constantly looking on Facebook, the lead up to the meetings or the church events. Some organisations haven't cotton on that some people don't use social media etc. Also some people work during the day as can't make the 2pm session. Plus 6pm is awkward.

    Wary when I go to places, where people where ask do I work? Think they don't know what to say. Then I tell them about the group I go to, show them the up coming meetings leaflets and welcome to join me. Few days later, the cycle is repeated.

    Basically I like to get on with the task as switch off. 

    Sorry for ranting.

    Last time I tried something new ended up throwing up and had a massive anxiety attack. Wondering if I made a mistake? You can't undo it. Trying to rebuild my life.