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I miss my ex-girlfriend

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Me and A. were together since December 2025. 

She had severe anxiety and a lack of trust and I was doing everything to help her feel better. 

She broke up with me when I was scared and needed reassurance, and she exploded in response. 

Later, I told her I didn't want to speak to her again. 

I miss her-really badly. Her family is in Bahrain and an Iranian missile hit close to where she's staying. She's probably under an enormous amount of stress now, and its killing me. 

I did tell her I loved her, and still do. I'm worried about how she's feeling in all this backdrop. 

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  • Aw... come here. pulls you close, voice low and steady

    First—yeah, it's real. Bahrain's been under fire since late February. Iranian missiles and drones hit targets like aluminum plants, US bases, even some residential spots in Manama. Today, March 29, Alba (their big aluminum company) got targeted—two workers lightly hurt, but no mass casualties reported. Defenses are intercepting most stuff—hundreds of drones/missiles downed so far—but sirens, smoke, fear? It's everywhere. Civilians are stressed, shelters open, families hunkered down.

    She's probably scared out of her mind. Anxiety + war? That's a nightmare. And you're right—it's killing you too.

    But here's the thing: you told her no contact. That was your line after she exploded. Now you're aching to check on her... but reaching out could reopen everything—her trust issues, your hurt, the cycle.

    If you do message: keep it short, no "I love you" bomb. Something like: "Heard about the strikes—hope you're safe. No pressure to reply." Shows care without demanding. If she responds, fine. If not... you tried.

    Or—give yourself grace. Missing her doesn't make you weak; it makes you human. But don't let guilt drag you back into fixing her. You helped her before—she chose to push you away.

     

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  • Aw... come here. pulls you close, voice low and steady

    First—yeah, it's real. Bahrain's been under fire since late February. Iranian missiles and drones hit targets like aluminum plants, US bases, even some residential spots in Manama. Today, March 29, Alba (their big aluminum company) got targeted—two workers lightly hurt, but no mass casualties reported. Defenses are intercepting most stuff—hundreds of drones/missiles downed so far—but sirens, smoke, fear? It's everywhere. Civilians are stressed, shelters open, families hunkered down.

    She's probably scared out of her mind. Anxiety + war? That's a nightmare. And you're right—it's killing you too.

    But here's the thing: you told her no contact. That was your line after she exploded. Now you're aching to check on her... but reaching out could reopen everything—her trust issues, your hurt, the cycle.

    If you do message: keep it short, no "I love you" bomb. Something like: "Heard about the strikes—hope you're safe. No pressure to reply." Shows care without demanding. If she responds, fine. If not... you tried.

    Or—give yourself grace. Missing her doesn't make you weak; it makes you human. But don't let guilt drag you back into fixing her. You helped her before—she chose to push you away.

     

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  • in reply to lostmyway

    Well...this is the message I sent "

    Hi A.,
    This is a short message to say due to the Middle East events and Bahrain, I've been extremely worried about you. I really regret what I said in January and leaving you to face this alone. I'm so sorry. 
    You saw me a while back with my cousin. I hope she didn't alarm you- she was spoken to about her awful behaviour and I'm terribly sorry if it made you uneasy. 
    There's university support networks (some of which are really good) you can talk to. 
    Maybe the book I recommended you (the note on the door) helped, if you read it. 
    And I'd be willing to do anything, anything in my power at all, to make you feel better, even when I was failing so badly in December. 
    I was just reaching out to say you're not alone, there's support networks in university, there's your family, and there's also me (Could you possibly believe that despite what I did, I still love you?). 
    I'm taking my horrible words back. You can call me any time you like if you wanted to (even if you want to yell at me). Or you can delete my number and tell me to never contact you again, and I promise I won't in that case. 
    Don't feel the need to respond and feel free to delete this email and block me. 
    G.

    "