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Grief and loss

pinkchocoholic

Yesterday I attended a peer support group for grief and loss and it's brought up memories and feelings for people, pets etc I've lost over the years. Well I'm still trying to do normal things the feelings are taking over and I don't like it. Any suggestions?

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  • I've lost a few people over the years but none of them really impacted me the way the death of my maternal grandmother, she was so warm, loving and made me feel safe when the rest of the world seemed cold.

    My biggest struggles have always been the loss of my dogs. I didn't have a dog as a kid so when we got a puppy as an adult it was something new. Obviously I was smitten from day one but when the time came 11 years later, I was just devastated and I don't think I fully recovered. It took another 7 years before my wife and kids persuaded me to get another one. He died of cancer when he was 7, it was very traumatic.

    I was talking to a psychologist last year and we were discussing losses and I had to recount the details of my dogs, it just brought it all back. He used the term unresolved grief, which I suppose it is but how do you deal with it, it should pass naturally but it didn't.

    I just have two large holes in my life but I suppose they will always be with me. I try to remember our happy times together and not the end.

    If time is a great healer I wish it would hurry up.

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  • I've lost a few people over the years but none of them really impacted me the way the death of my maternal grandmother, she was so warm, loving and made me feel safe when the rest of the world seemed cold.

    My biggest struggles have always been the loss of my dogs. I didn't have a dog as a kid so when we got a puppy as an adult it was something new. Obviously I was smitten from day one but when the time came 11 years later, I was just devastated and I don't think I fully recovered. It took another 7 years before my wife and kids persuaded me to get another one. He died of cancer when he was 7, it was very traumatic.

    I was talking to a psychologist last year and we were discussing losses and I had to recount the details of my dogs, it just brought it all back. He used the term unresolved grief, which I suppose it is but how do you deal with it, it should pass naturally but it didn't.

    I just have two large holes in my life but I suppose they will always be with me. I try to remember our happy times together and not the end.

    If time is a great healer I wish it would hurry up.

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