workplace not bothering to do the work on understanding autism

Good morning 

My former workers were bullies and nasty people. Ended up handing my notice 7 years ago. 

They blamed me for putting stock in the wrong place (no proof and id reckoned that the supervisor put the stock in the wrong place and made the impression that it was me);

I'd asked what I can do the last 10 minutes of my shift. Supervisor said how long have you worked here? You should know by now.

Playing games like asking me how much is in my bank account? What would you name your child? Who do I fancy in the store?

Taking photos inside the stockroom and posting it on Facebook for public view. Also message people on there phone. Absolutely security breach.

I was in a really bad state when I had a phone call saying I wasn't required to come in. 4 boxes of delivery. 

I went higher and told that I was lying to people saying we went bellow contract. I was told to make up the hours and I said no. Rumours was spreading that I was on long-term sick leave. 

Fact: I had the lingering flu before my 2 week vacation. 

The supervisor was telling everyone that she didn't have periods as a joke. I was going to pull her to one side and said isn't a joke.

Blamed me for a bad odour which was coming from the bins. I'd got grilled about personal hygiene. 

Got demoted to something different which I felt uncomfortable. Reason was that my productivity wasn't good enough (we're told to ignore the system);

I was showing a newbie to scan her rail and how to separate sale stock.

A shopfloor worker came up to me saying that why I put sale stock on the shop floor. Newbie asked me if I was ok. The shop floor worker said to the supervisor (before she went on maternity leave); someone in the stock room is putting sale stock on shop floor. I reckoned it was her or a temporary worker. 

Witnessed someone else who was getting bullied. The person was leaving. I didn't say anything as didn't want to have an argument saying calling someone judas and a traitor isn't acceptable and isn't a joke.

Handled my notice badly by saying you sure want to leave? Temporary manager didn't want to look at my feedback information. 10 days later I left I managed to get myself in the stockroom uninvited and former workers said we need you back on delivery, clock in now. 4 months later same thing happened and one of the people said add me on Facebook. I said no.

Someone told me that the day after I left, they realised that the behaviour couldn't continue and basically got on with it.

I did write to head office to feedback. The response was please can you tell me who did this? Case closed. Absolutely too late. 

I was told isn't bullying, hormones as some people were pregnant. 

Management knew all along. This could have been prevented. 

I was there 2007-2019.

Still getting nightmares. 

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Tried something new which was a mistake as I ended up having panic attacks. 

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Now trying to rebuild my life by attending a woman's only group. 

We do different things and have a cup of tea with biscuits or cake. 

Also I try to attend more events. 

Unfortunately I still get people who ask me what I do for a living. I get uncomfortable with talking about it. How would you approach it? 

Some of my family don't understand. 

Sorry for ranting. 

No apology necessary vardaguyn after all I did invite your response.

It is difficult to know what to say when people ask what you do for a living.

I think I might find it difficult not to "overshare" in such circumstances.  There is a balance of trust in the other person who inquires that my autistic brain struggles to analyse.

On a "good day" I would likely share more information and be able to explore further the inquiry with the person.

On a really good day even one who might be hostile to my response.

It has taken a long time for even my closest family to understand - they have become accustomed to me being stronger in their mind than I truly am.  Only when they are in a "good place" themselves have they been able to be strong enough to acknowledge my vulnerability.

Thank you for replying.

You have my best wishes with rebuilding your life.

Small wins can help increase confidence and meanwhile one has a chance to "get to know" who one really is.

Hope the cake is nice! :-)

No apology necessary vardaguyn after all I did invite your response.

It is difficult to know what to say when people ask what you do for a living.

I think I might find it difficult not to "overshare" in such circumstances.  There is a balance of trust in the other person who inquires that my autistic brain struggles to analyse.

On a "good day" I would likely share more information and be able to explore further the inquiry with the person.

On a really good day even one who might be hostile to my response.

It has taken a long time for even my closest family to understand - they have become accustomed to me being stronger in their mind than I truly am.  Only when they are in a "good place" themselves have they been able to be strong enough to acknowledge my vulnerability.

Thank you for replying.

You have my best wishes with rebuilding your life.

Small wins can help increase confidence and meanwhile one has a chance to "get to know" who one really is.

Hope the cake is nice! :-)