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Processing Emotions

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Hi. I cannot fully articulate what I want to say so I will start with this question. How do I correctly process emotions, specifically guilt and shame over doing something wrong, without acting like a professional victim?

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  • For the last 9 hours I have been going through negative emotions which were not my fault but caused by a difficult person. Trying to get me to see only their way.

    I often look to ask whether the problem is me or whether it’s being turned onto me by another person. It’s typical that someone might want you to feel guilt or shame either to feel enabled themselves or to prolong the process. 
    it’s very difficult to stop emotions dead, particularly unhelpful ones. And they can reemerge at the wrong times. 

    what I like to do is get to the bottom of the cause (typically another person) if the problem is them this is usually very obvious by how they are abrupt, uncooperative and difficult. There you have found your problem. You have to disconnect then reconnect with someone else and make them aware of what you are going through. this will dissipate the negative emotion.

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  • For the last 9 hours I have been going through negative emotions which were not my fault but caused by a difficult person. Trying to get me to see only their way.

    I often look to ask whether the problem is me or whether it’s being turned onto me by another person. It’s typical that someone might want you to feel guilt or shame either to feel enabled themselves or to prolong the process. 
    it’s very difficult to stop emotions dead, particularly unhelpful ones. And they can reemerge at the wrong times. 

    what I like to do is get to the bottom of the cause (typically another person) if the problem is them this is usually very obvious by how they are abrupt, uncooperative and difficult. There you have found your problem. You have to disconnect then reconnect with someone else and make them aware of what you are going through. this will dissipate the negative emotion.

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