Finished, pt 2

There’s so much that I could say.

I hope you are doing OK. I think most people here do not wish you to be feeling so bad.

Dear mp500,

When commenting please be mindful of:

Rule 7: Be respectful in discussions
Disagreements are fine, but personal attacks, insults, and swearing are not. Respect other viewpoints and avoid escalating arguments.

Whilst I acknowledge your perspective on the online moderation team, it is important to understand that the rules also apply to the moderation team. I can understand that sometimes the way in which we respond may not suit everyone, however we do our best and I know the whole team care deeply about the online community. 

If you have any concerns about moderation or for feedback we could use to improve our service please contact the community manager at: CommunityManager@nas.org.uk.

Best wishes,

Olivia Mod

I just wanted to flag that I edited some of the content due to Rule 7: Be respectful in discussions
Disagreements are fine, but personal attacks, insults, and swearing are not. Respect other viewpoints and avoid escalating arguments.

Best wishes,

Olivia Mod

Dear William,

I can understand your frustrations over the post being labelled as 'abusive', the online community team are working on this as we know that a lot of the posts are flagged to moderation are not abusive but individuals experiencing crisis or distress. On behalf of the moderation team I am sorry that this message has not been resolved yet and I will flag it to the online community manager.

I want to let you know that members of the community and the moderation team do care, and this post was most likely flagged due to members being concerned about your safety. 

Thank you for sharing how you are feeling in both of your posts- it sounds like you have been having a really difficult time. The National Autistic Society does not currently operate a crisis or emergency service. If you’re finding it hard to cope or have thoughts of harming yourself, please seek help. If you feel you are at risk of immediate harm, dial 999 or contact one of the mental health crisis lines listed on our Urgent Help Page: https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support/urgent-help. You could call your GP and ask for an urgent appointment – they can help you get the right support.

If it’s not an emergency but you’re still struggling, speaking to a health professional can help. If your GP is closed, you can call 111 for NHS support. In England, Wales and Scotland, you can now choose option 2 to speak directly with mental health professionals: www.nhs.uk/.../.

Here are some other organisations that offer free, confidential support:

· Samaritans – Call 116 123, 24/7

· SANEline – 0300 304 7000 (4.30 PM–10.30 PM daily)

· Shout – Text 85258, 24/7

· Mind Infoline – 0300 123 3393 (Mon–Fri, 9 AM–6 PM)

We are thinking of you and hope things feel better soon,

Olivia Mod

Fair enough. I've not been using it enough to find that out. I think it depends on which specific forum you go on. The 'Aspergers' one seems quite reasonable and realistic, whereas the "Autism" one is full of what's known as toxic-positivity, and the "AutismUK" one seems to be mostly people asking for advice on NHS Right-To-Choose providers.

As always, your mileage may vary as they say.

No prob, will.i.am

Reddit is full of cyberbullies and the staff on reddit are pr***s.

Thanks Justin Bieber

Thanks

I red your first post and I felt what you described,  I was in such situation some years ago. I'm terrible at comforting, so I prefer to stay silent instead of screwing up and in fact I often doubt if I should even write anything at all,because these are just words and for me serve no purpose and change nothing in the whole situation. Sorry if you find it offensive or anything other negative. 

It didn't even come to my mind to report such post, because it's raw life without sugar coat. I'm sorry,  you were treated this way. I can't say how someone could perceive that post, how could that trigger someone etc. But if this is what would make you feel better- we are here. You are not alone. I understand this feeling of being dumped by everyone. I wish I could help anyhow more productively, but I can't. Take care.

I’ve had posts reported as abusive as well, often without much clarity. Over time, I’ve realised that disagreement or discomfort can sometimes lead to reports.

It does make me question whether forums like this, where many members are neurodivergent and more sensitive to emotional triggers, might at times unintentionally intensify those reactions rather than help regulate them. It’s the reason I think I’ll take a break from here. While it’s been nice to chat with like minded people, I often find myself being triggered and sitting on my emotion. 

Keep your head up William, easier said than done at times. I find I’m more balanced after exercise and being outdoors when my mood drops. 

Unfortunately such topics are quite difficult to discuss on forums like this. Being run by a professional charity, it is staffed by *removed due to Rule 7* to difficult situations and don't actually participate in any of the conversation themselves (this is vastly different to the old days of web forums when staff were generally regular/experienced members/contributors). The NAS has to make itself look good and will not want people talking about k***ing themselves in public. There is also the new Online Safety Act which, in practise, pretty much forbids such discussion as it *could* be seen to be promoting it.

I don't want to shoo you off but you might be better talking about such matters on a more open forum like WrongPlanet or Reddit.

That aside, I know what its like to feel suicidal and to not have anyone to talk to about it (or indeed, about anything). It is very hard to be taken seriously by anyone else. Of course if you end up dead then everyone else would be devastated and would love the sympathy. But if you are miserable, who cares. Sorry I don't have any answers more than this.

I hope you are okay just now anyway, I need to go to bed as I am full of plague (not real plague just run-of-the-mill-small-child-induced plague)

I think it might be a standard message, it said the same when I was having a moment a while back, and the default language used can cause damage, but I think it helps to realise it is just crappy default language and not a reflection of your needs at the time. 

My best advice comes from cartoons. As Dory says from finding Nemo, 'Just keep swimming'. Hopefully you can do that for now. 

Edit: I think for me someone had flagged it trying to help, but the wording on being removed can cause further spiralling. It could do with being adjusted.

Thanks Cinnabar_wing wing for your kind words, and alsomp500  I hope that you start to appreciate your own company more.