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Christmas

Kuukiir

I am not sure how to start this post or how to word it correctly. Apologies in advance. 

Another rough xmas this year. No one has seen each other in person for so long that innoculous text messages, social media interactions etc throughout the year appear to have festered. And I do wonder, why I am the one that is is given the mediation role? I am the go-to, go-between, to smooth things over and give umpteen explanations for others behaviours? All these things and 'needs' of others are so suble, yet this appears to be my given role...

For context, my immediate family know I am autistic and struggle socially. Yet this is an onslaught every year. I really would love to hibernate during these 'festivities'. Can anyone share similar, and their resolutions please? 

Many thanks for reading, and I do so hope you are all finding some calm and happiness this xmas x

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  • So somewhat similar but not quite the same: I have a sibling that cut ties with me and for a few years I had to pretend at holidays that we were totally cool. Now it’s a little easier because she now lives on the other side of the States and supposedly has cut off most of the rest of our family by now.

    That’s wild that your family has picked you as the mediator. I wonder how that came to be?

    Yeah I agree that winter should be reserved for rest and relaxation.

  • in reply to profdanger

    That is so weird that you have to appear 'in sync' with your sister. Why is it that we feel the need to do this?? To make other humans 'comfortable'?? I do hope you find your own ways round this. Much hugs.

    As to the mediation, I am not entirely sure. Possibly because I accept all as who they are? That they feel they will not be judged in some way? Whatever. It is exhausting.

    But yes, let's just hibernate and recuperate!! 

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  • in reply to profdanger

    That is so weird that you have to appear 'in sync' with your sister. Why is it that we feel the need to do this?? To make other humans 'comfortable'?? I do hope you find your own ways round this. Much hugs.

    As to the mediation, I am not entirely sure. Possibly because I accept all as who they are? That they feel they will not be judged in some way? Whatever. It is exhausting.

    But yes, let's just hibernate and recuperate!! 

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