What happened to me
I have autism and EUPD with attachment difficulties. I was using a support service for over a year while going through burnout, homelessness, and emotional dysregulation.
A new manager started at the service. She did not keep professional boundaries.
- Contact shifted from support to personal interaction.
- She contacted me outside work hours, even when I was no longer using the service.
- She made statements like “I like you,” which led me to say it back.
- She met me outside my temporary accommodation and took me to her home.
- She said she loved me.
- She told me she was walking around in her underwear in front of her ex and said I had to accept it, otherwise it meant I did not love her.
- She introduced sexualised behaviour and BDSM content about dominating vulnerable people, which I did not want.
- She disclosed past abuse and later denied it.
- She gave contradictory information about her ex-partner.
- She used push–pull behaviour: threats of abandonment, making me jealous, and requiring me to “prove” my love.
All of this took advantage of my vulnerable emotional state. I was already struggling to process my emotions, regulate myself, and understand my own experiences.
Effects on me:
- Extreme panic, hypervigilance, and dissociation.
- Intrusive thoughts and difficulty concentrating.
- Emotional dysregulation worsened.
- Trouble connecting with friends and family.
- Feeling unsafe and exploited.
- Recovery was prevented and my mental health got worse.
I am sharing this because I want others to understand how professional misconduct can exploit vulnerability, especially for autistic people with emotional difficulties. I also want support to process this, because I struggle to express how badly it affected me.
inhave explained this to cmht but they never take me serious, they tell me to distract myself but I can’t because I’m in constant panic I think it may because I’m male but if this was the other way around It would of been taken seriously, this has been going on for 2 years and all happend after I lost my job for diagnosed with autism and EUPD lost my home and had to go into temporary accommodation, I can’t continue with this thought alone I feel I’ve been violated and when trying to explain the the cmht team they discriminate against me because of autism and I’m struggling to cope I have just realised I have been in a panic attack for weeks maybe more my mind and body are so disconnected …………….
