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Feeling overwhelmed when reaching out, does anyone else experience this?

Lonehare12

I wanted to ask about something I noticed recently about myself.

When I tried to PM someone to thank them for their efforts supporting people here, I felt a really awful, physical feeling in my body, almost dread. I think it might be related to RSD or sensitivity around showing vulnerability.

It felt like because of all the unknowns around it, the uncertainty of it all, I nearly talked myself out of it.

Is this because of my AUDHD or are NT people like this too.

I wonder if others experience something similar?

How do you manage it, and does it help to try small steps, like sending a message or accepting compliments?

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  • I feel like this all the time it’s like a wall of dread or anxiety. I need to know where I am and what I am doing, only doing one thing at a time. If I am sleeping (I am only sleeping) I don’t have room to think about other things. Don’t multitask. Additional mental load can make me anxious, especially with extra feelings like winter weather I just doubt want to do as much or go out which exacerbates the sense of dreading.Mainly I don’t try and do to much, just the bare essentials. 

    It’s the uncertainty of future. You have to use you experience and draw on times when you got though it, what were you thinking or doing which kept you calm.

    Really it’s just that we like to get ahead of ourselves, those feelings can be a sign telling you to slow down. 

  • in reply to pietro_21

    I can relate to the-

    pietro_21 said:
    I feel like this all the time it’s like a wall of dread or anxiety

    I like what you said about slowing down too. That's what I'm trying to do, just to focus on the essentials.

    It doesn't take the feelings away but it helps to make them more manageable.

  • in reply to Lonehare12

    People talk about mindfulness, but mindfulness is a lot more than that. You need to be/feel connected to things that are meaningful to you, more so when you feel overwhelmed.

    For me I can feel encroached upon when not totally independent in my actions, by sometimes just touching base with someone briefly is enough to correct a bad feeling. 

    Id add also that the feelings of dread and anxiety are often far worse that the reality. When faced with with self watched and experience problems are unfounded and not really problems at all.

  • in reply to pietro_21

    I agree !!

    pietro_21 said:
    the feelings of dread and anxiety are often far worse that the reality.

    So true.!!

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