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Feeling overwhelmed when reaching out, does anyone else experience this?

Lonehare12

I wanted to ask about something I noticed recently about myself.

When I tried to PM someone to thank them for their efforts supporting people here, I felt a really awful, physical feeling in my body, almost dread. I think it might be related to RSD or sensitivity around showing vulnerability.

It felt like because of all the unknowns around it, the uncertainty of it all, I nearly talked myself out of it.

Is this because of my AUDHD or are NT people like this too.

I wonder if others experience something similar?

How do you manage it, and does it help to try small steps, like sending a message or accepting compliments?

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  • I often feel the same too, I hestitate reaching out to people, especially on here as it all seems a bit of a palaver.

    I'm bad at accepting compliments too, I always feel that if I can do it, then anyone can and sort of want to brush off anything that might make me seem exceptional in some way. I think it is lack of confidence, but I also think its someting incredibly British. As a nation we often seem to have a problems accepting compliments, as if its going to invite a take down, you've only got to look at how the national press, particularly the tabloids enjoy building someone up only to drag them through the mire later.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I agree with what you written about being British. I think also there is something about humility in there too, but I think I take it way to far, like I almost make myself invisible.

    Confidence is definitely in play too. Maybe I need to build confidence so I can feel worthwhile. I'm not sure which comes first though.

    Thank you for your honesty, it helps.

  • in reply to Lonehare12

    I prefer invisibility too, maybe its because I've stood out for all the wrong reasons?

    I've never felt the urge to make a mark on the world, leave a legacy or something memorable, I'd be quite happy to be forgotten when I'm dead. Thats something that scares a lot of people, maybe as you say it's a humility thing, maybe it's something about people who have a better balanced personality, we don't let the ego hold sway? Maybe we're happy being the merest speck of dust in a massive universe?

  • in reply to Lonehare12

    I have this horrible and ridiculous fear that the day I die will be the day someone invents a perfect method of necromancy and I will still get people asking me stupid questions!

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